Ebay

[maggiebee]

Just discovered that my daughter-in-law has put two (rather expensive) handbags that I bought for her last year on Ebay. Not sure how I feel about this? What do you think?

[mikey4444]

Put in a bid for them and buy them back...then you can give them to her next Xmas !

Don't know your daughter-in-law at all but its a ruddy rude thing to do.

Failing the above strategy, don't give any more presents for a year of two !

[ummmm]

Would you rather she gave them to a charity shop?

[bednobs]

personally, i think it's VERY rude. Has she used them, or are they on as "new"?

[anneasquith]

would she know you have access to her account ?

[grasscarp]

Perhaps she has too many handbags and needs the money. I wouldn't make an issue or let her know that you found out. Natural you feel hurt but people constantly recycle presents. Just if you know someone's eBay account makes it possible to find out things you would be happier not knowing.

[bednobs]

maggie might not have "access" to the account, but can see, along with everyone else in the world with a computer, what is for sale there

[pusskin]

I'd feel really upset but wouldnt rock the boat, and would definately buy her a much cheaper present next year.

[maggiebee]

You're right bednobs, I don't have access to her account, just came across them by chance. Maybe she does have too many handbags though doubt she needs the money. Won't make an issue of it, really not worth it at the end of the day.

[pusskin]

Good decision maggie. Just let it ride. I'm sure she meant no harm.

[bednobs]

what i would say is this: if you intend not to say anything then you have to forget it completely, not for the next x years think "well she sold those handbags grumble grumble" if ever she annoys you! Don't let it fester

[pusskin]

Falling out with daughter in law would lead to trouble, so I would let it ride but would never forget. Buy cheaper presents in future.

[maggiebee]

You're right bednobs and pusskin. I find my DIL extremely rude, but she calls it straight talking! I keep it zipped for the sake of my grandchildren who I love to death. Thanks for all your advice folks.

[ummmm]

Womens fashion changes so fast. Maybe they just didn't go with what is in her wardrobe anymore.

[pastafreak]

Why buy cheaper presents? Because *maybe* the dil has too many, needs cash for something,didn't use them,didn't like them,but didn't want to say?? There are numerous reasons. Why punish though with cheaper gifts?

[Garador]

If you gave her the handbags maggiebee, then they are hers to do with whatever she wants.

[pusskin]

Maybe not buy cheaper presents, but try and buy something that doesnt have fashion attached to it, as of course the bag may not have been her style.
I stepped on eggshells for 20 yrs with my daughter-in-law maggie.

[sherrardk]

If you give someone a gift it is up to them what they do with it.

[Prudie]

I wouldn't take it too personally. I'd be highly unlikely to want a bag or shoes or a dress that someone else had bought me unless by chance it was my style. There really is no point in keeping such things in a cupboard unused. Maybe they just wanted a clear out

[anneasquith]

Maggie. by all means feel a bit miffed, then go see what else she is selling :)

[berniecuddles]

And that's why mrs c gets money off me for birthdays and xmas so she gets what she likes