Going Dutch On A First Date?

[Eve]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2411733/Man-stole-online-date-s-mobile-phone-refused-buy-round-drinks-expensive-central-London-bar.html

Well, an interesting spin on the more modern system of should you go dutch!

Interesting defence and am intrigued to see if he gets anywhere with it, somehow I doubt it!

Interested to see others' views, if on a date, men, do you expect or want to pay for a first date or expect the bill to be shared and, ladies, what are your views?

[Canary42]

Women fought for equality - now they've got it. Bill should be shared.

[Sqad]

No, never go Dutch on your first date.

The money spent on her is a gamble, an investment if you like,as to what you are likely to get back.

Going Dutch........halves your returns.......in my opinion.

[ck1]

I would personally want and expect to pay the bill on all dates, I don't think equality has anything to do with it, it's just looking after your lady

[baza]

equal rights for women, they should offer to pay half, a gent would not accept the offer in the hope of a later leg over.

[Octavius]

I would be happy to pay, but not £27 for two drinks.

We'd go to Wetherspoons £1.80 a pint and double spirits for a quid extra.

[Eve]

I would always offer to pay half (or my part of the bill) but if a gentleman insisted then I would let it go and offer to pay next time.

I wonder if it's more difficult in the days of internet dating where people are meeting for the very first time on a first date and could be meeting a number of different people. I always think men who internet date must spend a lot of money!

I like your style Octavius ;) I baulked when reading the prices of the drinks though, wonder what they were drinking! That's London prices for you!

[woofgang]

Its simple. Unless its group event, inviter pays for the main event. Invitee can buy drinks or make a different similar gesture.

[Sqad]

baza

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[woofgang]

Of course if a second date it a goer then the one who didn't invite the first time invites the second time and therefore pays.

[jim360]

What a complete scumbag.

[Eve]

Actually, I'm guessing cocktails, you can pay £8+ for some round here in the more upmarket bars and restaurants so maybe it's not so surprising, especially a tourist trap like Leicester Square.

I remember 10 euros a drink in Milan. Silly money, unless you are really rich I guess!

[Old_Geezer]

I've long accepted it's a woman's world and that I pay unless they offer: and even then I'd feel awkward about accepting the offer until the relationship was a steady one.

In a fair world an mutually agreed evening out ought to be expected to be, and actutally be jointly funded (birthday present or suchlike excepted) but if the guy wants to create a good impressin he can not afford not to lavish whatever on whoever is the new individual of their attention. One doesn't improve the chances of continued interest and a second date if one looks stingy. And all my training as a kid means I "instinctively" don't want to be anyway. One wants to give to the individual of one's affections.

[Octavius]

Well I was out with Mrs Oct in Covent Garden at the weekend and two G&Ts were £17. Its to be expected but the glass had so much ice it was stupid. And no, despite paying - and for more expensive drinks - it did not guarantee a legover. I should have gone with the girlfriend to spoons.

[joggerjayne]

All the bars in Leicester Square are cheesy dumps, priced at tourist rates. Twenty seven pounds is about right for two dinks there.

[Eve]

Baza, I can assure you that a man insisting on paying for a first date would not be increasing his chances of a "leg over", not with me anyway!

[Sqad]

trigger...LOL

[daffy654]

I would ensure I had money to pay my way whether it was a first or 100th date. I absolutely detest being reliant on anyone for money.

[joggerjayne]

I don't think we ever go Dutch.

Sometimes he pays, sometimes I pay. We do the "Let me get this" "No, let me get it" thing, but we never end up splitting it.

[woofgang]

guessing you spend a lot of nights watching tv alone trig?