Dreaming About Someone Every Night?

[JacobMth]

Okay so i started a new job last week and there is a Polish girl that works there. We didn't speak at all for the first few days but since then we talk everytime we see each other....Although her English is bordering on terrible due to the fact she has only been in the UK for 4 months. For the last 4 nights i have been dreaming about her and usually it involves us being in a relationship. The thing is i have a partner in real life who i have been with for 5 years now and have always remained faithful. Why do i keep dreaming about this other girl? Weird question i know but it is puzzling me.

[boxtops]

She's just a new person on the scene in your life, with a bit of mystery about her. You've got a partner - concentrate on her, don't spend too much time talking to this other girl. The Polish girl needs to get more people to speak too, too.

[JacobMth]

A few other things that might help somebody answer this. I have a feeling this girl likes me, i mean i always catch her staring at me and she will quickly look away after i catch her and smile. In my mind i dont see a relationship ever happening due to the fact she speaks very basic English and more importantly that i am in a serious relationship already. I do find her attractive as do most of the other lads i work with. She is stalking my dreams and will not leave!!

[Sqad]

You have got it made.

A meaningful and satisfactory relationship with your partner of 5 years (which is a long time).

The chance of a one night stand or a purely physical relationship.

Never look a gift horse..........

[boxtops]

You need to make a conscious effort, then, not to put yourself in a situation where you are talking to this girl. Does she know you are in a long-term relationship? She might be misreading your friendliness - you need to tell her that you are not available. You've only just started your new job - concentrate on that, and your relationship at home.

[boxtops]

sqad - we don't all think like you :-(

[woofgang]

We can't control out dreams but we can control our actions. Start bringing your partner into the conversation with this girl, be friendly but back off.

[JacobMth]

No she does not know i am in a relationship. When i say talk to her its more her asking me basic questions and me answering in dumbed down English so that she understands.

[Prudie]

It's quite normal to look at fresh faces at work and fantasise about them a bit. It soon wears off though. For all you know she's already in a relationship too.

[boxtops]

Well then - tell her. Mention on Monday what you and your partner did over the weekend, you need to let her know that you are not available. She may not be interested in you, but if she is (unless of course you want to take it further), you need to nip it in the bud now.

[Sqad]

boxy^.....LOL.....you are an AB treasure.

[JacobMth]

True i do not know if she is in a relationship or not. I did ask her if she is with a Polish man that she always talks too to which she replied "Are you *** kidding me" which i thought was brilliant for someone who speaks little English. Turns out the guy is married with kids.

[murraymints]

FOR SQAD ..MY LOVE...SIGH XX

[Sqad]

murray...LOL.

[JacobMth]

I wonder if there is a Polish version of that song....

[mrs.chappie]

Are you happy with your long-term partner? Were you having any doubts about your relationship before you met this work colleague?

[Prudie]

"Are you *** kidding me" - well at least you know she's not posh :-)

[JacobMth]

I would say i am happy yes. But i have had many doubts during the 5 years we have been together even breaking up several times due to this. I love my partner to death but there has always been little doubts in my mind.

[douglas9401]

Is this dream relationship one of riverside strolls and chaste kisses or more hide the Kabanosy?

Lighten up and stop looking for validation of your nocturnal fantasies.

[Sqad]

Jacob

\\\I love my partner to death \\\

Of course you do.....!.....that has little to do with the situation.
This Polish bird fancies you and you fancy her...........fill yer boots mate.

[JacobMth]

More me being in a relationship with this girl in places that i do not even know are real. Like a sort of settlement with a sweet shop on the site....And no i do not take drugs