I've spoken to a few friends re this already and have varying replies but just curious to your opinions!
Most of you know that he now lives with his dad and has a really good little job he loves, and now a girlfriend! She is two years older than him and I've never met her but have seen photos.
Teen Smow is very sensible indeed- not like most boys his age. It's his 18th birthday next month and he said he was coming home to visit just beforehand which I was really excited about and was thinking of things to do for his birthday. Then he rings me and asks if he could bring new gf. Oh, didn't expect that. But not to worry,it will be ok. Spare rooms newly decorated, new bed etc.....
Then as he's talking the penny drops that he has assumed that they will be sharing a room..... oh I didn't expect that.
Trying to make light of it I said something silly like separate rooms young man! Lol. To which he said "Seriously??". I said but don't you think that will be a tad awkward - I've never even met the girl. He starts on about its not all about sex, they've never even slept together. So I said well why do you want to share a room?(especially as his room is above mine!) he just says he does.
Not wanting an argument I changed the subject and we talked about something else. I've since spoken to a few people about it. Mr Smow says no - he isn't even 18 yet. Others say he's a young man. Yes I know I'm biased as he will always be a baby to me but just it just feels odd. Think I'm also annoyed that he didn't ask , he just assumed, which is unlike him.
Curious to your thoughts, and am sure most will say I'm being silly!
If they are going to have sex they will do it anyway . So you may as well just accept them sharing a room! They are both over 18! Your 'little boy' is an adult now !
No I wouldn't let them sleep in the same rooms, certainly at at that age (I expected the majority on here to let them). I had the same rule with my daughter and her boyfriends. It shows some respect in my opinion. i can't think of anything more cringing than knowing your kids are at it across the landing.
From my youth we wouldn't have dreamt of parents allowing this at 18 but the finding a way added to the experience
I'd quietly make it clear we weren't keen but insist if they were to share, even for only part of the night that he has protection available - despite his claims they haven't yet or won't.
It isn't worth spoiling the visit you're looking forward to.