Long term relationships

[sammd]

Do all long term relationships end up being mainly friendships? I have been with my bf for 7 years now and it feels more like we're just best friends than before - less of the physical stuff. Do all relationships (and marriages) turn out this way or does this mean we shouldn't be together?

[jessybean]

well, although im not that experienced, ive been with my boyfriend for almost a year and its the first time ive achieved anywhere near that length of time..i think that this is the way a relationship should become, as then you know youve got that person as a good friend as well as your partner..

although i suppose its down to you whether you feel like you should be together or not anymore..

im rambling now!

[boobesque]

mr boobs is my best friend, we arent allowed the physical stuff until our baby is born, but it hasnt harmed our relationship at all. The best relationships are based on friendship.
But as jessybean pointed out only you know if its right for you or not x

[Rufio]

Mine did, after 2 and a half years, it was an absolute joke by the time i broke it off a year later. But every relationships different, i suppose it depends whether there's less physical stuff due to a lack of desire for each other, or due to something else. Some soul searching required methinks, hope everything works out ok for you x

[jessybean]

mind, relationships shouldnt always be based on the physical stuff..theres always got to be something more, like the friendship that should last throughout. but yes, good luck with your situation

[raysparx]

Hi sammd

After you have been with someone for a while the sexual side is bound to ease off, you can't be at it like rabbits forever,but when you go to bed sometimes it's so comforting just to lay together and have a cuddle,mrs sparx is my best friend as well as my wife,my lover and the mother of our children, you are either content with your lot or you aren't, are you happy with your relationship? that is what you need to ask yourself. Ray

[laurence2]

Sammd, met my wife on a holiday romance in 1988, got married in 1991 to the present day, two boys 13 & 10, we travelled to & London/Birmingham for the 1st 3 years, would'nt change her for the world, so an ABSOLUTE yes, it certainly works.

Where both living in birmingham now

[sammd]

Thanks for all the answers guys...i know its really important to be best mates, i just dont want to be just mates if that makes sense...there's not enough bf/gf stuff...im off to put my thinking cap on...