i need some advice.....

[dejucrazy55]

at my school people like to talk a lot about tings that arent true...they tend to talk alot about me and what i have done with guys.. but now things are getting to far people say that i've had 2 abortions and i sleep around and all this stuff......its driving me crazy because ive never done any of that stuff......how should i deal with these stupid people!!

[devilwoman]

you could try laughing at them, or just ignoring it but if it really upsets you have a word with your mum or a teacher about it, but the thing is if they knw its getting to yiu they will do it more, show them the catherine tate attitude, AM I BOTHERED. dont worry ..... tings can only get better. : 0)

[luna-tic]

The people you speak of "dejucrazy 55" are usually insecure about themselves and use any method they can come up with to belittle or take another's energy away.
Pisstakers unite,because it makes them feel wanted within a group.If it is possible,ignore the remarks which will probably upset these people even more or as "devilwoman" said, tell your parents and teacher.
I know it might be easy for me to say but try and shut their remarks out.
Good Luck

[commonsense]

I had the same problem. Im guessing you are a pretty girl and these others are jealous of you. The worst regret for me is that I never confronted them and years later when I was about 19/20 the psychological effects caught up with me. This is bullying and you must remember no matter what they say you and your true friends know who you are. Try to ignore them and remember the guys in your school will try as hard as they can to manipulate you into doing things with them. Normally in my experience its the ones calling you who are doing it. If you have the guts confront them and ask them why they say them things, but remember keep your head up.

[saxy_jag]

To quote Norman Stanley Fletcher, "don't let the b*****ds grind you down." Devilwoman, Luna-tic and Commonsense are quite right - these girls are insecure and not a little stupid. They feel they have to join in with the taunting because otherwise they may be shut out of the 'herd' (because humans have an instinctive, animal need to be part of a society, for survival reasons). You, however, are better than that. You don't need them, because you have friends elsewhere (here, for a start) who really don't care about the lies people are telling. Lose yourself in what interests you - sport, music, arts, whatever. It sounds cliched, but once they see that you really couldn't give a toss, they will leave you alone. It may take weeks, or even months, so just be patient.

Like Commonsense, I had something similar. It's been heartening in recent years to learn that the ringleader ended up cleaning floors for a living (after a grammar school education), whilst I've ended up relatively happy and fulfilled. I've also recently made the acquaintance of (as opposed to just meeting) a very well-known broadcaster who was bullied (because that's what this is), and I have a feeling this girl would be very jealous indeed if she knew this. After all, I was the uncool saddo she could treat like dirt whenever she liked, because she was my only 'friend'. Yeah? Up yours girl!

Dejucrazy, your day will come!! :-)

[saxy_jag]

PS: If you don't feel there's anyone in your family or at school whom you can talk to about this, you could call Childline (Tel: [phone]). They aren't just there for major family crises and child abuse victims. You can just call and talk to them, and they'll listen and help you to form some kind of strategy for dealing with the bullies.

Whatever you do, come back and let us know how you're getting on.

[maxiewaxie]

no smoke without fire though,
maybe, you should wear a slightly longer skirt, and try to keep your legs closed on friday night after 5 bottles of smirnoff ice