dating game

[jibjab]

is it me or is the dating game really, really harsh?

ive been single a year now and the one thing i want more than anything is a settled relationship

i made a drunken mistake on the weekend and i dont want to lower myself to that anymore, i just want a nice girl.

im 24, decent looking and decent job so whats the big prob?

ive been on 2 dates now with older girls, both were very good looking, one was 29 and the other 25, both ended similarly with them making excuses and going just as i thought we were getting on

both text me afterwards saying we are just not suited etc.

the bad thing is, the people who are attracted to me are all younger like 18 / 19 and im just not interested - i cant put my finger on it

am i just a bore? why would anyone want to leave halfway through a date :(

i take things to heart aswell, and it will prob put me off dating for a few weeks

I JUST WANNA B LOVED :)

[4getmenot]

Decent looking and decent job is not what we all look for you know. And you try too hard, and expect to much. Just go with the flow. You'll scare people off otherwise.
And maybe you set your standards too high, 'Both were very good looking' What does that matter!!

[thedelbwa]

Well mate, I was in a similar position myself from ages 20-28 - I had the odd 'fling' here and there, nothing too serious, the odd regret, but no girl that I really liked would like me (or, not in the way I wanted at least). And yes, I would take knock-backs to heart too. The trick is to stay positive, stop thinking about it so much. There's nothing worse than thinking life is going to pass you by and you'll be single throughout. Learn to enjoy your own company, be happy with yourself (mentally, emotionally, etc) and you'll be more happy - as it does sound as though you're a bit down about it all. You're still young for gawd's sake!! During that period, I went to university, got qualified, met some really great friends, did what I wanted, when I wanted, travelled the world for a year....honestly the list goes on...yes, there's times you wish you had someone to love you and to love back, but please, do not worry about it....the right girl will come along, whether you know her or not....yes, you will have to make an effort to find her (she's not going to just knock on your door), but don't despair....just have fun...and believe me, girls like being with a fun guy who is happy (i.e. not all cut up and bitter about being single) - hope this is of some help at least....and yes, it all turned out OK for me too.

[4getmenot]

And can I be really honest with you because you did ask what we think, looking at your post you do sound like a grade A twonk. You don�t seem to have much personality or even sound interested in anyone else having one. Start getting to know girls first and how they are. Just coz the cover looks good isn�t always a great story.
And you seem to ask this sort of question every month stop worrying and live you life.

[4getmenot]

where are you taking them on dates? What do you think is boring them?

[4getmenot]

you asked!! And looking at your question you dont even mention personality as to what you're looking for. I'm sorry but thats just how you come across. I'm trying to help. get some confidence, think to yourself 'No I will prove 4getmenot wrong' I'd love to see you come on here and say how you've got a girl. I'm just trying to tell you you're trying too hard. You obviously think you do something wrong to ask why would anyone leave through a date. Maybe they arent suited to you. not everyone can be. Is there any of your friends that take your fancy?

[4getmenot]

try and take them somewhere they will enjoy or where you dont have to concentrate too much on conversation like bowling, its a laugh and something you can enjoy together.

[4getmenot]

yer they do. My bloke is the shyest ever but after going for arrogant Tw@ts all my life I love him, and I find shy people so cute. I know you may not want to but have you tried any dating websites, might be a good way of talking first without getting shy and letting them know you. And hey footies not bad, try play for your local team if you dont already, most of them will be single and have lads nights out, and most girls like the local football team. Although I may be bias :-) Where do you live?

[4getmenot]

yes but it his those blokes and bullies That will grow up lonely. They don�t want to settle down and will probably cheat on their girlfriends. In the end us girls don�t want to settle down with cocky prats, we want to feel secure and to be with someone we trust. Have you tried my space? Can make great friends on there. If I knew anyone in wales I would try get you a date.

[4getmenot]

well you cant suit everyone. What was the drunken mistake?

[4getmenot]

Oh dear, even woman do that, it�s a drunken bit of fun but you regret it in the morning.

[4getmenot]

No you just sounded like it in your post. I cant tell what you're like just from that. Hey were you the one that asked would you feel silly in the costume?

[4getmenot]

My only advice is that you should sit back and let others come to you. You will find true love when you least expect it. You sound like you�re having fun in the meantime anyway. You have mates and you go out, some people aren�t so lucky.

[Black Noir]

You sound quite sweet really, stop trying so hard and chill out!

Where did you take these girls on dates? Perhaps they thought the night was over !! i.e like going to the cinema, when you assumed that you would be going for a drink afterwards?

Can you elaborate on the dates you went on so we can psycho-analyse you further! It may not of actually been your fault if you know what I mean.

[Richie1976]

I going to make 4getmenot sound like a nun.

Try growing a pair of b0ll0cks, girls like then.

" JUST WANNA B LOVED :)" You sound like a big wet lettuce.

[alijangra]

I think you sound like a nice, genuine person. Maybe you are trying too hard, giving off signals that you are looking for a serious relationship. Just enjoy the dating scene for a while, dont have any expectations and you will meet someone that's right for you. If these girls thought you werent right for them, there aint much you can do about it. Just be yourself, someone will want you for who you are.

[Richie1976]

So did mine and I think you'll find we're not the only two to come from a broken family.
I'm glad your not a "lout like me". Although I didn't realise we'd met or was that the time when I introduced you to my long term girlfriend!

[thedelbwa]

Now now children

[4getmenot]

I am a nun

[4getmenot]

and hey whats that long term girlfriend like :-)

[redhead23]

hey jib jab , im 23 single , good looking good figure , drive , have a very decent job and i cant find mr right at the moment

you know what loads of people dont enjoy being single , but i would rather be single then just dating any pratts that come along , its not a reflection on you , its just that you cannot always gel with everyone , you are young , join a few clubs and try to make the most of it mate its not the end of the world coz u dont have a girl it really is not , or try speeddating , im going lol x