date rape, this is all so messed up... pls help

[oh-nooooooo]

I'm 100% sure me and a friend were drugged in a club last wkend. I have very vage memories of the night as does my friend. It all got very strange after a drink this guy got us (we were all at the bar, however, my friend and i were chatting, we were a bit drunk admittedly) I

have had a few flash backs and there is alot of blanks. But i gather, me and my friend went back to this guys house, and ended up having sex.

I felt very out of it, and things that i would definantly have said no to happened. Didnt feel i was able to say no. I've been married for years and a mum, my friend in a loving, live in relationship. Neither of us would or have cheated before. (I've been drunker on many occasions)

I had to have a STI test today, and it messed me up. I seem clear but who know re HIV and Hep B. i also reported it to the police. I felt very wobbley and emotional all day, but after reporting it, i felt calmer, and more in control, but numb towards it.

I rang my friend told her, what i did today, yest she was sure that we were drugged, but today, she's not sure, as she often has blank outs when drinking. I'm well confused.

I think she's panicing as she dosnt want to tell her bf what happened. I dont want to tell my hubby but know i have to, have no idea how he's going to take this. What makes this harder is he knows this girl and her bf. I think she's worried that my hubby'll tell her bf. I still have to tell my hubby about it - dont i? How can i stop my hubby talking to him, when he finds out?

Does anyone know of any support lines that help the partners deal with their partners going through this kind of thing?

my head is eveywhere. dont even really know if that all made sence

[condom]

Oh dear. you mean this guy / freak raped both of you at the same time?

[oh-nooooooo]

yes, he alternated between us, like a threesome, but the mems i have are so sketchy.

[gruntie]

you went back to this mans house?

why?

you said you were married and with kids?

[condom]

can your friend remember any of this?

[jackthehat]

Are you having trouble reading this, gravy..............?

Either treat this seriously or leave it alone..........

[oh-nooooooo]

She remembers bits and peices, but more than me.

It all got freaky after we all had a drink together at the bar, he gave us ours, watched us drink them, then had his. Didnt really think at the time. Next thing i know, we're getting our coats and i am so blerry i couldnt get my hand in my jeans pocket. and the woman behind the coat rack looking at me strange. THen he's walking between us, with his arms over our shoulders, guiding us, quite strongly in my op. then nada till much later.....

[pastafreak]

I hate to be suspicious....but they may be one and the same,jack........

[gruntie]

sounds a bit far fetched to me

he managed to drug BOTH of you

get you back to his, AND have sex with you both?

[jackthehat]

It wouldn't surprise me one bit, Pasta..........

[condom]

wowsa... so like what happened when you woke up in the morning? you know where this guy/ freak lives right?

[jackthehat]

Well, as it's not you, please have a little sensitivity...............

[pastafreak]

This is a bit like a ventriloquist and his dummy......

[oh-nooooooo]

my friend thinks she can retrace our walk from the club and find out where we went/where he lives. i dont remember much other than when we were in the cab on route to hers, then passing out on floor at hers.

i would not do this if i was just drunk, i'm a christian, i love my husband, and would never ever do anything to jepodise that, no matter how ****** i was.

[gruntie]

wizzard, totally agree with you. why does she go out, (married with kids) then go back to some blokes house she met that night.

[jackthehat]

Fair go, Wiz..........you make your life sound completely black and white..........and it's more than that, surely ?

Please accord oh-noooooo a little kindness until such a time as it is proven that they do not deserve it............

[condom]

wtf I was asking more details.... how sensitive are you by accusing the person of bieng Me??? hmmmm very sensitive. Have you ever googled the word hypocrite?