Girl Trouble

[IM A GENIUS]

I would appreciate any advice on this question. Me and this Girl have known eachother quite a while now and there has always been some kind of attraction between us. She has recently split up with her boyfriend in which they where together for a good 1and half years. Now she has been sigle for a month or two and i dont know what to do. She knows i really like her because i have told her so but she never seems to talk to me or reply to my emails and stuff like that, i have asked her if she would like to go out for a drink (as friends) but she never accepts my offer. The thing is i think she likes me deep down but doesnt think i am that serious about her and i dont know what to say to get her to listen or to ingage in proper conversation, also i dont see her that often. I really like this Girl, but should i cut all ties with her and stop trying to talk to her or do i keep plugging away?. Thanks

[smudge]

England - Perhaps she just looks upon you as a friend & if she doesn't reply to you e-mails, etc., then I would take that as a hint & move on. Good luck.

[smudge]

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[andy hughes]

I think you are on a looser as far as rommance is concerned. You have made your interest plain - if she felt the same way, she would have accepted your offer of a drink. It lookas as though she knows you are romatically interested, and she doesn't feel the samed way. The best option is to cool your romantic approach, but keep the friendship going, and see what, if anything develops. Don't be seen as too keen to define your relationship, this will put her under pressure, just keep things light and easygoing, and if things are going to develop, they will, and if not, you just have to accept that she is not interested in you as a prospective partner.

[ICEMANSAV]

Agree with Andy, it looks like she is not interested sorry.

[linlam]

As a female, I tend to agree with Andy. She may still be hurting from the breakup, a couple of months isn't that long, and if you've told her that you 'fancy' her, offering to take her out for a drink 'as a friend' will still be a little dodgy, she knows you care.The next time you see her, don't ask her out, ask how she's been keeping etc.Then before you move on, ask her if she'd prefer you not to bother her again, if she says something positive, then offer her your mobile number, and leave the next move up to her. Don't ask her for her mobile number though, you may be tempted to text her etc and scare her off.

Good luck

[CiderMonkey]

In addition to what smudge and andy hughes have written - if she's only been single for a couple of months it may be too soon for her to even think about another relationship.

[georgit79]

Stop. I promise you, as soon as you stop showing an interest, she'll be throwing herself at you!

[cheyenne]

England, try what Georgit79has said, it just might work.

[natalie_1982]

Also, I'd agree with a point you made about yourself "doesn't think I'm serious about her". Frequently, you take the p*ss out of other ABankers and their questions, and I imagine that if you are like that in your day to day life I wouldn't believe you either. (Friday you asked me if I was fit - You wonder why she doubts you?). The others have all given great advice and I'd say be yourself and be a friend, but don't pester her and don't smother her, you'll only push her further away.

[IM A GENIUS]

Thanks Guys. I will take the advice on board and put it into practise i:e stop talking to her and see if she responds to that approach. cheers again.

[Casey]

Why not ask her straight out? Tell her how you feel and simply ask if she feels the same? It may be that she likes you but needs some time on her own for a while since splitting from her boyfriend

[natalie_1982]

I wouldn't just stop talking to her, speak to her by all means and be a friend, but don't overdo it and don't in any way pressure her.

[BUNNY]

I totally agree with georgit79 and I think you're doing the right thing by backing off.

[linlam]

And England! above all, keep us updated!