whaever happened to good manners?

[excelsior-1]

my gripe for the day.

call me old fashioned - but i was brought up to be well mannered and respectful.

i always wipe my feet, when entering a premesis, wherever and whenever i go, regardless of the weather. occsionally, that has resulted in someone behind me walking into me, because they have assumed i would not stop - as they don't.
i see, in wet weather, many damp footprints leading into a place because people don't bother.

also - i often hold doors open for people .. they walk straight in without even an acknowledgement, let alone a 'thank you'

normally - i just shrug it off however, both matters have happened quite a few times today while i was in town - and i guess it was the straw that broke the camel's back, and my blood just started to boil.

whinge over .. having cup of tea and cream cake to indulge myself now.

[ummmm]

Thankfully I do not come across many bad mannered people.

[baza]

please and thank you seem to be a thing of the past also.

[excelsior-1]

agreed baza.

although some people will use 'cheers' as a thank you .. i hate that

[mrs_overall]

My personal bugbear is when I hold doors open for people and they plough through without acknowledgement, let alone words of thanks.

I've taken to shouting after them "You are very welcome, please don't mention it"

It gets me some strange looks but I don't care

[ummmm]

No they aren't. I always say please and thank you, as do my children, parents and grand parents.

[excelsior-1]

yes, mrs overall.

i do that too

[baza]

thank you for agreeing with me, i also think cheers should be used only with a drink

[excelsior-1]

ummm.

i am delighted to see that you and your entire family are like me.
thank you

[chelle7272]

lol mrs o I do exactly the same!

[mrs_overall]

My other foible (well, being honest, one of very, very many) is when I follow other motorists and they don't indicate. If we end up in the same car park/street/whatever I approach them and say
"I think there is something wrong with your car"
They always seem grateful until I tell them
"Your indicators don't seem to be working"

[excelsior-1]

oh yes.

not indicating your intentions at junctions and roundabouts in my opinion is almost criminal.
it certainly is dangerous.

[Greedyfly]

Agreed - I hate bad manners. It takes no effort to wipe your feet or remove your shoes. It takes no effort to hold open a door. It takes no effort to help someone when they are struggling. I absolutely hate it when I hold a door open and they just saunter through but what can you do. Just because they are rude won't stop me doing these things.

My place of work is terrible for this.

[coccinelle]

It depends on how and where you are brought up. I was brought up in UK and will always look back behind me to see if there's someone there when going through a door; in France they don't. It makes my French friends smile in fact! However, it is seen as very bad mannered to walk into the post-office or other small public building and not say 'messieurs dames' whereas in UK people rarely do this (English equivalent of course).

[excelsior-1]

greedyfly.

you have it all in a nut-shell. i refuse to 'go native' and will continue to exhibit good manners regardless of the lowering standards that seems to pervade society.

[Greedyfly]

Between us Excelsior and other well mannered Answerbankers maybe we can start a well mannered revolution?!

[mrs_overall]

excelsior - snap!

[furrypusscat]

Bus queues are a thing of the past, people just get on without a thought for anyone else. Also a lot of youngsters don't think of giving up their seat if elderly or disabled are stood.
It isn't always youngsters either that don't say please or thankyou, some elderly people can be quite rude.

[Traci66]

I was brought up with "Manners cost nothing and mean everything."

[excelsior-1]

good idea mrs O.

hello furry, long time - no see.

i will agree with you about bus etiquette too.
i did once say at the top of my voice (to embarrass the yobbo concerned) to get up and let a lady sit down.

[excelsior-1]

in a nutshell traci.
thank you