Omg !! Seething About This, Please Read And Give Me Advice.

[dieseldick]

i am registered with linkedin for work, i have my full work history, phone numbers, etc etc uploaded. have had account 2 years now and been offered 2 jobs within 4 months recently.

this morning i logged on and received a message from a recruiter co ordinator from a very very well known company, a company i want to work for. the recruiter was a girl and she said in her message the following " do you think that is an appropriate profile picture to have on your account, did them children give permission " as soon as i read that i was shaking with anger and shock, that was 4 hours ago, i cannot get this out of my head. i wanted to write to her back telling her do not dare to insinuate anything underhand about me, they are my 3 children 2 boys and 1 girl, it was took on holiday in a hotel swimming pool by my wife, i cannot tell you in words what i want to say to this girl i am discusted and downright effing angry. my froend told me to mail her back but if i do that she will block me from any work. i want to call her tomorrow at office but i know when i call this company it is hard to be put through to correct dept.

please give your advice , what should i do to make her realise that she has made a very serious accusation, i want her to be so sorry for what she has said.

[dieseldick]

if anyone wants to see the said picture then message me an email address and i will show you it.

[bookbinder]

Send this woman a polite email, asking for an explanation of her comment. Your next course of action would no doubt depend on exactly what she says, but keep it polite until you are sure of your ground.

[jackthehat]

She has made no such accusation, calm down....

She has simply queried whether having your children in a picture on what is a 'professionals' site and a career/jobs based forum is actually 'professional'.

I wouldn't include my son/grandson in any picture in my Linkedin profile.

[Fusion5]

Is there nobody above her that you could complain to.

[black_cat51]

i don't need to see this picture. She hasn't made a serious accusation at all (that is in your head)
1) she has a point - a profile picture of your children isn't really appropriate for a work site - why would any recruiter want to see a picture of your children? - they want to see you!
2) calm down, take a deep breatha nd stop imagining slights that aren't there

[sandyRoe]

Are you sure she actually works for the company? To write, "...did them children...", seems an odd phrase from someone who has a responsible position as a recruiter.

[wolf63]

I thought that it was a work related site. Why would you put a photograph of your children on it? She probably could have phrased her email better - but she was probably trying to be helpful.

[Maydup]

No, we don't need to see the picture. Its of you and your kids in a swimming pool on holiday ..... not something to share with us strangers.

Nor something that prospective employers really want to see either I fear. Best to keep family and home life separate from work and swap your linkedin pic for one of you at work.

I know its not what you want to hear but she's right this girl. She 's not implying anything just suggesting you change your pic for the sake of the kids.

[black_cat51]

completely agree sandy. Someone who is a professional recruiter isn't going to use such terrible grammar.

[lady-janine]

try to keep calm until you have all the facts, and then keep really calm - that is if, and when you speak to someone else.

[jennyjoan]

Don't get too angry as the recruiter co-ordinator could be another *** and didn't realise how serious her accusation was. Since you want to work for this company try and contact the company another way via email, letter or when you phone you will get hopefully get ANOTHER recruiter co-ordinator. Good luck and hope you get the job.

[baza]

sorry to put it like this but would you want to work for company that employs a recruiter with that mind set, surely the messae could be worded better, ie should family pictures be on a workplace website.

[black_cat51]

there are NO accusations!

[boxtops]

she hasn't made any accusations, you are reading too much into it...

You are your children's parent, so you give permission, but some might think it unwise to post pictures of children when you are so readily identifiable on the linkedib site.

I'm on LinkedIn - I would feel it completely inappropriate to have a family pic on my professional profile - it's not Facebook.

[askyourgran]

Deisel don't give the photos out. I understand your concern, and in my opinion the recruiter was very wrong to make an assumption on your choice of profile picture. I would write to the company, or at least demand online to be given the number of her manager to report it. Hopefully she is not the only contact at the company. These are very poor, miserable days when ones children have to be protected to the point that they are targets for ill judged comments as well.

[Baldric]

Two questions,
What accusation?
and
Why on Earth would you put your Children on linked in?

[Svejk]

I agree with the lady. it sounds inappropriate to me. what were you thinking of?

[black_cat51]

even taking the children out of the equation, you in a swimming costume is not appropriate either !

[boxtops]

I agree that you should contact the company and ask to speak to the most senior person you can, and ask (calmly) for an explanation for this call. Don't lose your rag, don't make assumptions that the girl was accusing you of anything. She may have merely been intending to ask if you had a more professional photo you could have used.

I still don't understand why an informal family photo was put on your business profile - you wouldn't send in a pictutre like that if someone asked you to send a photo with your c.v.

[lady-janine]

btw I have nothing personal on my linkedin account. strictly business - as is the case with other people I know.