Threesome Relationship Advice

[Bigjaykay]

My soon to be wife and I (both 30) are open and honest about everything. She has told me she has been in a threesome before (both MMF AND FFM). She has said that she would like to do this again. I told her if things got stale we would talk about it later, but I don't think I could see her with another guy. She is attracted to women also, and said that she is fine with it. She is more sexually adventurous than I am. Also, she said she would let me bring it up, since I was the one uncomfortable with it. My questions are; Will this change our relationship? Our sex life? Is it normal to feel insecure and worried? She has already said if it doesn't happen she would be ok with it. But am I depriving her with my insecurities? And am I missing out on something with her?

[pixie374]

Do they even have children yet?

[rockyroad]

no pixie I don't think so. I was asking why they wanted to get married and observed that if it was to start a family then things may become 'awkward'

[ummmm]

Rocky - why are you pretending to be all innocent and naive?

[rockyroad]

Not pretending, I am. Have to go now as I really think this is a wind up and Mother Superior needs me to go fix her a gin & Tonic.

[pixie374]

I wouldn't worry about that now- they'll be too knackered for threesomes by then:-)

[Bigjaykay]

She has 2 kids. I have none. She can not have anymore children. It would only be a few times a year while they are at her ex husbands.

[ummmm]

Although I agree with divebuddy I still think you shouldn't ever feel pressured to do it....especially not for her sake.

[Bigjaykay]

I talked with her, and her answers were she would be up for it if I brought it up later. She would not do it if I was still uncomfortable with it. She will never bring it up. She is just open to it later if I wanted to. If she went her whole life with just me, she would be fine with that too.

[keyplus90]

I would rather let her go with the "other" one and find someone who would like to be with me and me alone.