Spanking Your Children

[spathiphyllum]

For, against, or it's no one elses business what you do behind closed doors?

https://globalnews.ca/news/5096786/banning-spanking-children/

I don't see the issue with striking the bottom of your own infant. There is a difference between spanking a child, and then child abuse.

[spathiphyllum]

the intention is to put them in a position where you show dominance. They see you as the leader, the boss.

A wolf would hurt another wolf to get it to behave. We're just animals.

my say is in the OP.. I don't see the issue with it, as long as it is not hard.. you know? I do not agree with any kind of domestic violence but a light spank on the bottom is more about the principle than inflicting pain. Inflicting pain is not the agenda surely? That's warped.

[woofgang]

put them in a position where you show dominance??????? where do you get your ideas from? Oh and wolves don't hurt other wolves to get then to behave. noba, we are not wolves.

[spathiphyllum]

Yes. Why else would you spank a child unless it is to get them to behave and to do as you say?

[spathiphyllum]

if a child doesn't behave, then you've lost dominance. Unless you think it's OK for a child to be dominant over their parents? :S

[Old_Geezer]

You may spank my children any time you can find them. They've probably done something naughty.

[gness]

Blimey, Spath.....either you have strange ideas....or you've had a liquid lunch..... ;-)

I managed to bring up nice, happy children without behaving like an animal......they behaved well both at home and outside without having to be hurt......which is more than you can say about children who are taught that you get another person to do as you want by hitting them......odd.....really odd......x

[Barmaid]

Ok, let's assume I agree with you (and I dont), at what age would it be wrong to continue with striking the bottom of your own infant? Why is that?

[spathiphyllum]

if anything the older the child gets the more appropriate it becomes.

[Rockrose]

How do you define a light spank?

[spathiphyllum]

So, there is no cap, in my eyes. If a mother wishes to spank her 16 year old son for misbehaving then so be it.

[spathiphyllum]

however spanking a 3 year old is a bit warped isn't it

[spathiphyllum]

one as to not leave a mark.

[Old_Geezer]

You may have had children whose personally was naturally compliant and willing & able to react well out of simple disapproval. Not convinced that is sufficient incentive to behave well for many.

[Rockrose]

Spanking older children? How old 10, 12, 16?

[Neveracrossword]

Spath, I think you're enjoying coming up with these odd scenarios - people having dominance over their children, smacking without leaving a mark, smacking 16-year-olds and so on. If you genuinely believe the stuff you're typing, I feel very, very sorry for you!

[spathiphyllum]

"there is no cap in my eyes"

If a mother of any age wanted to spank her 40 year old son then so be it.

[spathiphyllum]

Neveracrossword I am flattered. Not many people have feelings for me.

[Neveracrossword]

Spath, I know you like to wander off into nonsensical flights of fancy in the face of reasoned debate - that arouses feeling of pity too! Still, if it's what you prefer...

[mumn3boys]

I have 3 boys and my youngest is Damien reborn when he gets one on him, he has ADHD, his perception of things is not the same as everyone elses, its not the same as his brothers but I got smacked as a kid and I feel im a decent adult, I dont spank my boys but I have them walk to me and hold their hand out and literally touch their hand,(no force- not a smack) but it works wonders with my youngest because he knows hes done wrong and ive only had to repeat this a few times and only done it a handful between all 3 of them. They are all happy, healthy, loving children and I dont think its too much.

[spathiphyllum]

Most children (more so middle classed in my opinion)would have experienced a slap across their bottom, but would also be able to happily say, i was never abused as a child, the odd smacked bottom, maybe but abuse, gosh no.