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My Wife And I Dont Really Enjoy Babysitting The Grandchildren For Any Length Of Time.
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Are we bad people? We do it out of a sense of duty more than anything. Nobody knows how we feel and we never ever give that impression in front of the children. Does anyone else in that position feel the same way? We feel we have done our bit bringing the children up now its our turn to enjoy ourselves when we want and not have to work around this. We always said we would not get into a set baby sitting routine but we have been manipulated into it with the usual guilt trip. The fact we are still working and not yet retired makes it worse. Thoughts please.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.you'll need to learn to say No. Give excuses if necessary ("It's my darts night", "We'll be in the Bahamas", "Your mother has got a weak heart") and try to make them true - that is, pre-arrange your social life when you can so you're fairly busy. But try not to get angry over it. If your kids don't choose your care home, your grandchildren will.
I don't think you are bad people at all and I agree that you have done your bit by bringing your own kids up and you are still working as well ! I used to work with a girl who when she had her baby, her Mum told her not to expect her to do any babysitting as she's done with all that after bringing up her own kids. The girl agreed with her Mum and didn't take any offence at all. Maybe time for a chat with your children ?
If you're still working it's unfair of them to manipulate you into babysitting and you need to be more assertive.
Everybody's different. My parents and my in-laws fall over themselves to have their grandson, especially for stopovers but he's a lone child and exceptionally independent and well behaved ... not to mention dreadfully cute ❤
However, grandparenting is not everyone's cup of tea and there comes a certain age where kids are hard work and you won't always have the energy for it.
Everybody's different. My parents and my in-laws fall over themselves to have their grandson, especially for stopovers but he's a lone child and exceptionally independent and well behaved ... not to mention dreadfully cute ❤
However, grandparenting is not everyone's cup of tea and there comes a certain age where kids are hard work and you won't always have the energy for it.
Sqad, your post is very popular with me. My son and wife don't appear to want children, but no way would they expect us to babysit except in an emergency. 'Expect' being the key word. I didn't expect my mother or my mother in law to babysit at all. Besides, I have no interest in looking after children. However, we happily look after their dog!
ummmm...I don't understand your post.
Firstly......I was never babysitted.......as far as i can remember and secondly, I thought that they were my biological mother and father until i was 15 years of age and then i was told.
I am not sure that it has biased my opinion against babysitting..............has it?
Firstly......I was never babysitted.......as far as i can remember and secondly, I thought that they were my biological mother and father until i was 15 years of age and then i was told.
I am not sure that it has biased my opinion against babysitting..............has it?
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