Do You Think This Is Rude?

[DarceyK123]

Daughter was booking a tea party for her sons birthday in a local Cafe which is now hosting them. The proprietor ask what was the name.

Her married name is Hogg, the woman started laughing and said "like as in" and then started making oinking and snorting noises! Daughter just ignored this and just spelled in out for her.

I was horrified by this rudeness but she just shrugged it off and said she was used to it.

I know the children have had some teasing at school because of it but when a grown adult, a supposed business woman, does this to a customer i think its darn rude, dont you?

[jno]

yes

[gness]

My business would go elsewhere, Darcy no matter how used to it I was.
Rudeness like this to a customer is never acceptable.

[Hopkirk]

Disgraceful. It shouldn't be accepted unchallenged.

[tonyav]

Yes rude. I would do the same as gness.

[naomi24]

When asked for a name I would probably have said ‘Hogg … as in oink’. No offence given or taken. No need to be precious.

[Toorak]

Totally unacceptable - I would not give them my business

[DarceyK123]

Thanks, i wondered if i was over reacting, im not normally a snowflake who gets offended easily but i was/am hopping mad, i wont be going there again after this party, hope i can persuade daughter too.

[gness]

Then children learn that from the adults, Naomi and think it’s okay to do it to other children in school. I’ve seen how unhappy a five year old becomes when his or hers name constantly is ridiculed.

[Arksided]

I’d have gone elsewhere too very rude.
Probably snorted a few sty words when leaving

[gness]

Darcy, what would happen if the proprietor made fun of a disabled person, someone with a stammer, a very overweight person.
I really would book somewhere else and give my reason.

[naomi24]

You are not the only one with experience, gness. Children need to learn to deal with life because sometimes it’s not what they want it to be. Get the joke in first and the other bloke’s joke is non-existent. Dragging bottom lips petulantly isn’t the smart way. Getting in first… is.

And here endeth the only lesson.

Bedtime for me. Night all.

[gness]

I’m sure you’re right, Naomi. First day of school. Four and five year olds will take that on board with everything else their coping with on that day. Dear god.

[gness]

They’re. Silly answers don’t help my typing. :-)

[Toorak]

You were right first time Gness :-) (their)

[Maydup]

Rude and childish.

But for the sake of the children I might have double barrelled the name when I married Mr Hogg.

[William51]

Yes, it is very rude, the manager should be informed of the incident.

[emmie]

i think it's rude.

[William51]

Yes, for a proprietor to behave in that way was despicable.

[LadyCG]

"They're" is correct.

I would have gone elsewhere too. Rude and ignorant people would not be rewarded with my custom.

[naomi24]

//First day of school. Four and five year olds will take that on board with everything else their coping with on that day. Dear god. //

Of course it's rude but the fact is teaching children that it's rude isn't going to stop rude people being rude, so rather than spend your life being offended - or teaching kids to spend their lives being offended - learn to deal with it - and teach them to deal with it. That's protection. Of course you can go elsewhere - that's your prerogative - but unless you can shoulder this sort of thing, that won't stop you being offended the next time it happens - and that means you're the one who's constantly hurting. Doubt appealing to God will help though. We're all on our own with this one.