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andy-hughes | 22:10 Fri 07th Apr 2023 | Society & Culture
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... but I have yet to see a single 'non-binary' / 'they' / 'gender fluid' etc.etc individual, famous or anonymous, whose clothes, hair, facial expression, and overall demeanour-

are not silently screaming -

"Please please please, for God's sake notice me, I am starving for the attention of complete strangers!!!!!"

Anyone disagree?
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The ones you don't notice are the ones who aren't like that.

So definitely not a coincidence ;-)
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Zacs - // Your op doesn’t come across as a casual observation, Andy. You seem pretty riled up about the whole thing. //

That's your interpretation, and it is incorrect.

// How can you write to me ‘I am happy to concede a dislike for people who disrupt the wider world’

And then answer to Gness
‘First of all, I don't 'have a dislike' for 'gender fluid' people’ when your thread is entirely about the disruption they apparently cause? //

It's not 'my thread'.

I made a casual observation, and you are determined to make it far more than it is.

The disruption is a valid point, given the impact on schools in particular, who are forced to accommodate the whims of pupils not old enough to understand the casual decisions they make, as the children they are.

I dislike anyone who thinks that their own way of living means that they are entitled to bend the world to their will, and that applies to a large number of high-profile causes, I simply made a casual observation about this one, and then responded to points made.

If you want to make me a bigot with a hysterical fear of things that don't affect me, that's fine, but I know it's not accurate.
I can’t make you anything, Andy. But the evidence is there for people to draw their own conclusions. The vehemence of your protestations speaks volumes about your confusion on the matter.
I know it’s hard, as we all get older, to accept that it’s no longer the world of your youth but to get so wound up about matters which have zero effect on you seems like an awful waste of your remaining life.
// The disruption is a valid point, given the impact on schools in particular, who are forced to accommodate the whims of pupils not old enough to understand the casual decisions they make, as the children they are.
//

This (and, indeed, everything else you're saying) is an incredibly warped presentation of what, basically, amounts to the request "please don't bully people who are different from you".

So some people are attention-seeking. So what? You aren't obliged to give it to them. And, in any case, there's almost certainly a whole history behind somebody's mode of self-expression, that you just skipped right past. It never hurts to at least *try* and understand what a person's motivations are, rather than write it off and try instead to justify your prejudices.
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Zacs - I am not 'wound up', and nothing I have posted suggests that I am.

Read what you like into what I post, but the evidence suggests that your dog / bone interface means it is actually you who is getting a simple observation out of all proportion.
To assume someone is ‘ silently screaming "Please please please, for God's sake notice me, I am starving for the attention of complete strangers!!!!!" Because you haven’t yet seen a single gender fluid person’s appearance suggesting otherwise is crass and ignorant in the extreme.
As others have suggested, maybe you need to appreciate that you may well have seen people who aren’t ostensibly gender fluid but are? Has that ever crossed your mind?

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Zacs, I have made my point, you are wilfully refusing to accept it, so I am refraining from indulging your deliberate misinterpretations any further.

Enjoy your afternoon.
Bye, Andy. (Rolling eyes emoji)
Well, thanks for trying, ZM :)
Just have to wait for the floor paint to dry now.
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Clare - // Well, thanks for trying, ZM :) //

'Trying' what?

To make my OP into something it isn't, and label me as something I'm not?

You might be grateful that Zacs has taken on such a pointless task and saved you the bother, but I'm not feeling quite so generous about it.
You labeled yourself, Andy.
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gness - // You labeled yourself, Andy. //

If I was looking to 'label' myself, the term 'bigot' would not be my first choice, funnily enough.

i made a light-hearted observation which Zacs has tried moving heaven and earth to make something it absolutely was not.

If you want to join in and deliberately ignore the explanations I have offered for my view, then carry on, but like Zacs, you'll be running in circles without my input.
:-)
There are photographs in this link of a couple of folk who describe themselves as being gender-fluid.

Would you describe either of them as appearing to be, "starving for the attention of complete strangers"?

https://www.cnn.com/2016/04/13/living/gender-fluid-feat/index.html
Haha! well yes if there's an article about them on CNN website!
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Corby - // Would you describe either of them as appearing to be, "starving for the attention of complete strangers"? //

You may see a photograph of someone you don't know from Adam, and make an instant decision about how they live their lives and conduct themselves in public.

I don't.
PRUDIE and ANDY, if you seen those two folk in the street, as they appear in the photos, would you think they were starving for attention?
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I have no idea. If they were standing like statues it would be hard to make an assessment.

Keep trying ...
Have you considered they might act the same as someone who is not gender-fluid and you'd not think they were, from their appearance or demeanour?

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