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What are your opinions on teenagers? I'm 14, and it seems as though we're always portrayed as either yobs or moody kids that hate everything. I was just wondering what your thoughts were and why?
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Take it you've just had a 'discussion' with 'the parents'!!! Funny you've posted this message now - 7pm must be the witching hour for teenagers! I've just had a discussion with my 15 year old. Looks like he's feeling just the same as you. No, pinksmartie, you're not a yob (i'm sure because there were no spelling mistakes in your message) nor are you moody - well we all can be a bit sometimes. Just a clash of personalities at the moment. You feel as though you know what's right for you at the moment and your parents feel as though they know what's right for you long-term. You see we're quite good at predicting things because we've been through exactly the same sh-1-t as you, be it 20 or 30 years ago, it was exactly the same. And you kids will go through the same aswell. Just try to ride the storm and see it from every perspective at the moment. And most of all tell your parents exactly how you're feeling and how you disagree with what they're saying/doing. I know it's rubbish, but don't forget your mum and dad have only ever been parents once so this whole parenting thing isn't as easy as it might seem,. In fact it's really hard work. So stay cool mate. Won't be long till you're 30 and you'll be wishing you were 14 again !!! Good luck.
Lol thanks jmck66. I actually haven't had any arguments with my parents, I was just wondering what people thought.
Although sometimes it does seem as though they just don't get what I'm on about - like when I talk about worries I have that seem like a big thing they seem to brush it off with a 'don't worry it'll be fine'. Now that's frustrating lol.
Although sometimes it does seem as though they just don't get what I'm on about - like when I talk about worries I have that seem like a big thing they seem to brush it off with a 'don't worry it'll be fine'. Now that's frustrating lol.
Well next time you have a worry that seems big to you - let them know it's a big thing. It doesn't seem so big to them now because they've been through it all and 'yes' it will be alright in the end but that's not what you want to hear right now. What's a big thing to them now is paying the bleedin' mortgage/bills and making sure you go without nothing !! But getting you through this stage in your life will be the most important thing to them. It looks like the rest will be a breeze. How articulate are you!! You're punctuation is fantastic - for a BOY! And what makes me really mad is that you know how to make things bold on here - I don't and I'm 40!
I'm so sorry pinksmartie (the name made it a bit obvious didn't it!). I should have known you were a girl - with the punctuation and all that. Probably because I've got a son and I don't have alot of 'dealings' with girls - in the I hate you/you hate me - sort of way. I never actually answered your question. Don't think it's your fault that everyone seems to hate teenagers. There are alot of adults out there who need to get a life and stop moaning about teenagers all the time. There are alot of really horrible people out there - some teenagers but just as many, if not more are adults.. The good guys are always pushed aside and tarred with the same brush if you come from the same area or are the same age. Keep being yourself and you'll go far girl. Lots of love. Auntie Jane. xx
Hey Nic.
To be honest, I feel that we are prtrayed as thugs, drug addicts, and yobs. Yet can I ask the "Adults" something? Where do we get our influence from? Other teenagers. Where did they get their influence from? Adults.
One example: Dealers selling drugs to us teens.
Or, druggie parents. Some of us are partly to blame, and some of the adults are too.
Yet surprise surprise, we get all the blame.
To be honest, I feel that we are prtrayed as thugs, drug addicts, and yobs. Yet can I ask the "Adults" something? Where do we get our influence from? Other teenagers. Where did they get their influence from? Adults.
One example: Dealers selling drugs to us teens.
Or, druggie parents. Some of us are partly to blame, and some of the adults are too.
Yet surprise surprise, we get all the blame.
Hmmmmm, and I wonder when the last time was that you actually had a conversation with a teenager, MrBen5? without muttering and shaking your head as you walked past them? You know, they're actually intelligent (more so than I could ever wish to be) and kind, and you know? they're f u n n y.. Surely you must remember... ... .... (oh, and bytheway, Mr Benn is a legend - I hope you're not using his name in vain?!)
Im 18 and to be honest the only teenagers i have problems with are the ones that hang about outside Jacksons abusing people & shouting or the really horrible violent chavs..
the thing that i hate most about people portraying teenagers or people making judegments is when teens who have piercings or dye their hair purple are always portrayed or thought of as being "rebels" or "druggies" and such like, i really don't agree with that and that really really annoys me!!
the thing that i hate most about people portraying teenagers or people making judegments is when teens who have piercings or dye their hair purple are always portrayed or thought of as being "rebels" or "druggies" and such like, i really don't agree with that and that really really annoys me!!
People who don't appreciate teenagers just aren't allowing themselves to remember being young. And that's a shame.
Even when my now twenty- year- old was a teenager, and things came up, I always tried to look at it from his point of view. I always reminded myself that he was more than just my son. He was an individual person separate from me. And I think that's the key. Grownups should spend time listening to the music and the lyrics that teens like, with their teens and watch shows together and allow the teens, when they want to, to talk about what they are seeing and listening to and avoid taking it personal when they don't want to. Adults just need to remind themselves that even when they are sitting in front of their own teenager, they are looking at a real, individual person, someone who is evolving into so much more than just their little Johnny or Susie. When parents do that, they will actually find themselves in awe of these people their children are becoming. It was an amazing experience for me and I wish it hadn't ended so soon! Not that I miss the arguments, mind you, or the "outbursts" that occasionally came up. Despite the occasional "drama", I derived great pleasure in watching him grow and change, and hearing his perspective on things. And I found I agreed with him on many. Music as art, for example. Even his music, the sound of which made ME want to cringe, we were able, together, to appreciate as art, the same as my music was art, even though he'd rather have his fingernails pulled out one by one (his analogy, which made me laugh) than be forced to listen to it for even five minutes.
Adults need to just take a deep breath and step back and look at teens' evolution a little more objectively. That's my opinion. Having raised one and watched him evolve into a thinking, feeling, complex, thoughtful and kind individual, I think teenagers are awesome!
I hope this is helpfu to you.
Even when my now twenty- year- old was a teenager, and things came up, I always tried to look at it from his point of view. I always reminded myself that he was more than just my son. He was an individual person separate from me. And I think that's the key. Grownups should spend time listening to the music and the lyrics that teens like, with their teens and watch shows together and allow the teens, when they want to, to talk about what they are seeing and listening to and avoid taking it personal when they don't want to. Adults just need to remind themselves that even when they are sitting in front of their own teenager, they are looking at a real, individual person, someone who is evolving into so much more than just their little Johnny or Susie. When parents do that, they will actually find themselves in awe of these people their children are becoming. It was an amazing experience for me and I wish it hadn't ended so soon! Not that I miss the arguments, mind you, or the "outbursts" that occasionally came up. Despite the occasional "drama", I derived great pleasure in watching him grow and change, and hearing his perspective on things. And I found I agreed with him on many. Music as art, for example. Even his music, the sound of which made ME want to cringe, we were able, together, to appreciate as art, the same as my music was art, even though he'd rather have his fingernails pulled out one by one (his analogy, which made me laugh) than be forced to listen to it for even five minutes.
Adults need to just take a deep breath and step back and look at teens' evolution a little more objectively. That's my opinion. Having raised one and watched him evolve into a thinking, feeling, complex, thoughtful and kind individual, I think teenagers are awesome!
I hope this is helpfu to you.
Awwww - I LOVE teenagers!!! I must do as I work with them every day in life. I too, hate when other adults sneer at things that teemagers see as a big deal 'hmmm, wait till you've got two screaming kids and a mortgage to pay, then you'll know.... blah blah blah"! Well, when you are fourteen or whatever and your pals all fall out with you then that IS the biggest deal in the world, actually
I think that it is generally unappreciated the HUGE physical, emotional and hormonal changes that adolescence brings and how difficult this is to cope with. Woudl any of us go through that again???? Me? NO!!!!
I love how good teens are at reading people, seeing through patronising, condescending adults, turnign to humour when things look black, taking risks etc etc. Oh, and I do love a rogue so even the chave/neds/yobs don't bother me too much as there is almost ALWAYS a good guy in there waiting for someone to take the time to get to know them and draw them out.
I think that it is generally unappreciated the HUGE physical, emotional and hormonal changes that adolescence brings and how difficult this is to cope with. Woudl any of us go through that again???? Me? NO!!!!
I love how good teens are at reading people, seeing through patronising, condescending adults, turnign to humour when things look black, taking risks etc etc. Oh, and I do love a rogue so even the chave/neds/yobs don't bother me too much as there is almost ALWAYS a good guy in there waiting for someone to take the time to get to know them and draw them out.
Cheers, Pinksmartie.. you have made my day! Some would say that being on the same wavelength as teenagers when you are 30 is something to worry about but I guess that is why I do the job that I do.
There is no better time in your life to make mistakes, have great acheivements, push things too far or just generally make a roaring arse of something than when you are a teenager... at least then you have an excuse and some good stories to tell when you are all wrinkly.
There are lots of people out there who think like me, you just have to search them out.
There is no better time in your life to make mistakes, have great acheivements, push things too far or just generally make a roaring arse of something than when you are a teenager... at least then you have an excuse and some good stories to tell when you are all wrinkly.
There are lots of people out there who think like me, you just have to search them out.
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