Sister and Cancer

[alc2285]

I'm 21 and my sister is 32. Her husband was just diagnosed with terminal cancer. He going through kemo and is very very tired and sick. It seems like everyone they know and we know are doing everything they can do to help. Such as food, money, clothes, whatever. She cannot work because she has to stay home and take care of him and there 2 year old daughter. Anyways, our mother and I feel like she is takeing advantage of the kindness of the loveing people. They are saveing money to take a trip to florida to stay with my grandparents so they can make some memories for their lil girl. She has the money but thay need to get fuel for heat and my mother told he to use that money to get it. She said they are waiting for his social security check. Which they don't have enough time to, so we said just use the money for fuel and then just take that amount you used from the ss check and just put it back in. She doesn't want to do that. My sister is kinda slow due to a mishap at birth but she is fully capable to live a normal life. She keeps haveing her husband who is sick do everything. We tell her he is sick and she needs to do things on her own. She expects him watch they daughter all the time while she runs around and wastes money. She even makes him go places whem he doesn't want to but he tells her but he doesn't want to disappoint her either. She pops in to my mother , step dads and my home and just think its ok even though we may have things to do. She expects us to drop everything so she can get on our computer and then we have to watch my niece. We don't want to hurt her but how do we get throught to her? It is like she only cares about what she wants to do, it just all about her and it shouldn't be that way. HELP PLEASE! Sorry this was so long I just wanted you to know the whole story.

[MrBen5]

I know it seems bad, but i think its her way of dealing with things. She must be really hurt and she is trying to act as though she doesnt care, when really deep down she does. I bet if someone outside the family circle had a one on one chat with her, she would open up. Try not to expect too much from her. Just because her partner has cancer, it doesnt mean he cant do anything. I know lots of people with cancer, and their life doesnt change that much. Just get someone to have a word with her and get her to talk about how its affecting her life...

[NORMANTHEDOG]

dont be so hard on her,she has enough to cope with,put yourself in her place and think about it,you heartless person.

[alc2285]

NORMANTHEDOG, I don't know what crawled up ur butt, but geezz. I see where your comeing from MrBen5. Its just strange that she is acting like this. She has had many people from her church mention something to her about how she is acting. I just can't stand the thought of my brother in law not being there for my sister. Off the subject, to me it seems that many people on this site like to take things out of context and make more of it then what it really is. oh well