am i wrong for wanting this?

[needknowledg]

Hello :) my name is Mel and i'm almost sixteen. I love my parents and all they have done for me. Wether I agreed with wat they did or not i love them.

My parents were gone most of the time trying to make enough money to keep our family happy as a kid. So, naturally as the oldest child I spent alot of my time looking after things while they were gone. My younger siblings were like kids to me and I grew accustomed to caring for them. I was always said to have been a very independant child.

But, about five months ago my dad lost his job and we got evicted from our home. We had to move 256 miles away. I had to leave my job, My closest family, and my boyfriend of 2 years. The hardest part was leaving him behind.

We tried to make it work. But him only being a few months older than me, and neither of us legally able to travel the long distance to see each other eventually put a serious damper on our relationship.

I want to move back to my hometown, regain a job, my family, and my love. My family living back in my hometown are more than willing to take me in. to help me get a job, and finish school. Even help me take the college classes ive always wanted to take. I know that they would take good care of me.

My parents are still having serious issues trying to support our family. I think that staying with someone else could help my parents. if I were gone it could lighten the financial load a great deal. But instead they keep me here and wont let me leave.

They wont let me live there and succeed much greater things than what I would ever accomplish here. And I dont understand why.

When I get my license i plan on leaving my home and returning to my hometown. Even reguardless of what my parents think. AM I WRONG FOR WANTING THIS? I love my parents dearly and i'm thankful for everything they've done for me. But I want to be more

[No,Knowledge]

interesting you are the first to answer poodifat

[needknowledg]

lol no i am NOT the daughter of No, Knowledge :) I guess great minds just tend to think alike.

[bednobs]

i dont understand when you say you are not legally allowed to travel 256 miles. Why is that?

[needknowledg]

We are too young. I dont have a license yet. And my parents refuse to help me see him. They wont take me anywhere near him.

[MWB]

Take a bus or train?

[jno]

to answer your question, no, you're not wrong for wanting it. But you don't say how old you are. Under a certain age your parents retain responsibility for you (what age depends on where you are - are you in the USA?) and they could be in trouble if they just let you go. Over that age and they can't stop you. You seem to have a plan, which is good, and you're concerned not to upset your family. But many parents have trouble letting their kids go, mainly out of love for them and worry that they may get into difficulties if they leave.

Keep trying. And check the age limits in your area.

[needknowledg]

ok. I cant take a bus or train. I live in Utah. There isnt very much transportation available where im at.

[needknowledg]

I am 15. I turn 16 in about a week. Yes im in the US. The reason why the age matters is because my parents dont agree with me being with him because he's so far away. I dont understand what difficulties i could run into. I have family that is willing to look after me out there. I just think they dont want me to leave because they can't handle me being gone.

[madmaggot]

I know this is not what you want to hear but, if your relationship is as strong as you think it is, your boyfriend will be content with contact via letters, email, telephone, etc until the time comes when you can be together.
You are just a child although you feel as if you are an adult, be patient and just live your life as it pans out.
No you are not wrong for wanting it; but your parents know what's best for you at the moment.
The years pass only too quickly, try not to wish them away.

[Monkey77]

needknowledge you are not wrong for wanting this, but you are very, very young. Your parents are obviously loving and devoted and I suspect their reasons for not wanting you to go back home are twofold. Could you perhaps sit your parents down with one of the relatives you say are happy to put you up back home and all talk it out, or perhaps someone you trust and go through your reasons for wanting to go and your parents reasons for wanting you to stay?

[needknowledg]

that sounds like areally good and simple idea. But my main problem is that my parents wont talk to them. My parents are angry at them because they tried to help me stay before. I lived with them for two weeks while my family moved away. Then they came and got me and told me that the family wasnt the same without me. I highly doubt that they needed me. I think they took me because they knew i was happier living in my hometown with other family members than i was living with my immediate family.