Losing our parents

[coccinelle]

Do we ever get over losing our parents and loved ones? I lost my father 9 years ago and my mother 3 years ago and here I am still having a bit weep over why they had to go..... I suppose there are times that other people's presence just doesn't fill what they did in our lives and we miss them so much.

[Sachs]

Hi coccinelle,
sorry you're feeling down xxx Have'nt had to go through this yet, can't imagine it.

[sn�gs]

My Dad died suddenly 10 years ago... you come to terms with it rather than get over it... nothing wrong with shedding a tear is there...

[joggerjayne]

snags is right ...

You learn to live with it.

But the hurt never goes away, and you never stop missing them.

It's all part of being human.

[Jan1957]

Hi coccinelle. I still have a weep now and again over my dad who I lost 14 years ago. I don't think you ever get over the loss of a parent if you've been close to them. I just try to remember the good times I spent with him.

Hope you feel better soon.

[sqad617]

Never knew my father.

Mother died and I hardly grieved, although I admired her as a woman and her philosophies.

We all grieve differently and at differing intensities, although at a guess I think that women grieve to a greater intensity than women.......just a guess.

[sn�gs]

True sqad.. I didn't grieve that much for my Dad... we weren't that close...

I know i'll be absolutely gutted when Mum goes though...

[joggerjayne]

sqad ...

It's a small world.

I never knew your father either.

[sn�gs]

Lol... good on ya JJ for bringing a bit of light-heartedness to the thread...


You heartless b!tch ;-)

[sqad617]

snags...it may have something to do with the umbilical cord is never severed. LOL

[Sachs]

Are you o.k coccinelle? xxx

[joggerjayne]

=0(

[sara3]

don't give yourself a hard time over this. it will never leave you but you will put it in its place as time goes by.. but it will come back to you from time to time.

[sqad617]

JJ...LOL......goodnight my darling daughter.

[sn�gs]

Maybe lol... but I was found under a gooseberry bush...

[sara3]

OMG, this has got weird!

[sqad617]

To all posters re. JJ and myself.

I was in Brighton at the same time that JJ was conceived.

[joggerjayne]

coccinelle ...

When I was a little girl, my baby brother died in his cot.

It was me who found him.

You can't get over it.

Sometimes you don't even think about it.

Sometimes it hurts so much you want to die.

It's all part of the "rich tapestry" of human experience.

And it's a bummer !

[caththecrazy]

You just learn to live with it. I didn't have a very good relationship with my parents and sometimes I feel guilty that now I never will.

I'm sure I'll grieve more when the lady I call Mum - who lived with my dad for years although they never married- dies and my nanny.