What attracts you - question, category, or user-name?

[naomi24]

Not quite sure where to post this, but here goes.

Since the recent changes to AB, a few people (me included) have said that the orange coloured question titles displayed in the 'latest posts' box on the right are now less easy to spot, and that got me thinking.

What encourages you to read, and possibly answer a question? The question itself, the category, or the last user-name displayed in the grey box?

[Nadis]

But I never brought anything up about the past until you did. I do not wish to argue either and the problem must be yours aswell because you keep having a go at me everytime I say anything. That's why I asked, how do I deal with something that I don't understand what it is I am supposed to deal with?
I am not meaning you any harm so why do you keep reminding me that I've done something wrong. I admit that and saying sorry obviously doesn't mean anything to you.

[naomi24]

Stop playing the victim. I've nothing more to say.

[Nadis]

I have gone from a very happy place this morning to one of confusion and sadness in the space of a few posts.
Thank you.

[ummmm]

It's only pixels...step away from the computer if it's upsetting you..

[Nadis]

I am not playing anything. You asked me a question so I tried to answer it.
As I said before, it doesn't seem to matter what I say to you on here anymore. It's deemed as wrong. That's not a victim, that's the truth.

[naomi24]

Good grief! For God's sake stop man!! Enough!!

[ummmm]

Nadis.....you can just stick to answering the questions instead of trying to have a convo.

[naomi24]

Ummmm, thanks for trying to help, but there is a history here. The fact is he was deliberately nasty on that other thread, and he made fools of people who had been his friends for years by purposefully deceiving them into believing he was someone else - and that's not nice. That was the point I was making - and it needed to be said.

Thanks for your answers everyone.

[Nadis]

Yes I was nasty on the other thread as you say, I've admitted that already. And even if I did portray myself as someone else I was not being nasty to you. I didn't want to be Luna-sea anymore because I couldn't even enter into a debate without you being offish. Every time I come on here you are ready to have a go at me. Why?
And I'm not asking for sympathy, playing a victim or anything else.
It doesn't matter Naomi24, don't bother to answer because I wont be coming onto this site anymore which is obviously what you want. I like R&S most of the time and S&C but I am having personal difficulty dealing with personal issues which no one wants to know about because this isn't the place to air them so I bid you farewell and I hope you, your family and everyone on here I used to know have a great life.
I am truly sorry for the hurt I have caused to people I have known for a long time on here.
(Sorry Naomi, this probably sounds like a victim story again and you've heard this before aswell).
Bye Nadis/Luna

[naomi24]

Luna, it simply isn't true that I've been 'offish' with you - neither is it true that I don't want you to come here any more - and it really isn't fair to accuse me of either. The fact is I've never intentionally hurt you or anyone else here - that is not in my nature - and I've made every effort to include you in whatever is going on here, as well you know. If, in your petulance, you've rejected that, you must bear full responsibility. You've chosen to behave as you do, so you can hardly blame me or anyone else for your failings. And where on earth did you get the idea that I have a go at you every time you come on here? Where have I had a go at you? Look at my posts and show me. Apart from last Monday night when I realised that you had deceived and made complete fools of your friends, and that you, as Nadis, had been the deliberately argumentative and nasty person I'd encountered on that other thread, you cannot deny that I've always given you every sympathy and helped you in any way I could, but this continual self-pitying nonsense - for no good reason - and there is no good reason - has finally tried even my practically infinite patience. You cannot expect people to continue to sympathise or to continue to excuse your behaviour or to make allowances for your self-imposed and imaginary dramas when their only reward is a smack in the face - which is exactly how my efforts have been rewarded. You bleat on that you're only human - well I've got news for you. So are we all!

continued....

[naomi24]

...continued

If you're wise, you will take my advice and reconsider (yet again) your decision to run away from a problem you've created for yourself. I've told you many times you are your own worst enemy - and you are. If you want to continue to be so, then there's nothing I or anyone else can do about that. It's your choice. Think about it, and if you choose to re-evaluate your inaccurate perceptions and reverse your decision, hopefully you will draw a line under this silliness and enjoy AB as it should be enjoyed.

[ummmm]

I hate the 'I'm leaving...bye bye' posts...just stop posting.

[rowanwitch]

Ummm ever felt like sending two posters to their respective bedrooms until they can play nicely....

in answer to the original question I look for who's posting...limited list but where I know there might be a bit of light relief..

[ummmm]

A few.....sometimes I have to send myself to my room :-)

I wouldn't include Naomi though....she's too reasonable.

[mrs_overall]

"I'm leaving" sounds the same as:

"Watch me spit my dummy out" and

"I'll scream and scream and scream until I'm sick"

Childish.

[ummmm]

And 9 times out of 10 they come back...

[naomi24]

Thanks Ummmm. One tries!! :o)

[mollykins]

If it looks like an intresting thread in the recentpostbox, but I also browse through; CB, food & drink, science, and the jokes section if i'm feeling down.

[naomi24]

I have to say you do get around Molly. Good for you! :o)

[Nadis]

You are absolutely right Naomi. I've been on this site since 2006. Why should I leave? Because I have personal issues that I have vented out on you and possibly others.
But my own way of thinking is I do not deserve to be amongst those I have offended which is not a victim stance or asking for sympathy. I feel bad about what I have done and am willing to leave that behind me but I do not deserve forgiveness and I have admitted I have done wrong and I know this site for me can never be the same. I have excellent memories of You, Theland, Wiz, Mibs, China Doll and many others when we would constantly make each other laugh and I guess I would like those days to return but sadly they never will. I miss the companionship of those times. So I truly want to say goodbye to you and everyone I have had such wonderful cyber moments with. I may have created things on here that have caused disarray and hurt you but I honestly do have personal problems that cannot be resolved unless I leave this site so farewell and take care of yourself Naomi and all.
Luna