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Unfortunately for my divorced daughter she foolishly married a Jehova's Witness. He tries to control her everything she does but she fights against it which leads to a very unhappy marriage. |He has however made life so difficult for her children that three have left and he is now spreading poison against the last one.
Is this really what his religion is about or is he a control freak anyhow.
Can anyone suggest any passages in the bible which might persuade him to look after his wife ( and her family) in the loving way other parts of the bible suggest. He reads it religiously every day' even when he gets back from the pub which he has been to on his own.
Is this really what his religion is about or is he a control freak anyhow.
Can anyone suggest any passages in the bible which might persuade him to look after his wife ( and her family) in the loving way other parts of the bible suggest. He reads it religiously every day' even when he gets back from the pub which he has been to on his own.
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I stupidly married a control freak, who began by being caring and protective and fooled everyone. The horror of my gradual realisation of his real nature (he turned out to be a violent psychopath) will never quite leave me. It probably has nothing to do with religion, that will be just a tool he uses to convince himself that he is completely above criticism and she is the one in the wrong.
She must leave him, no matter what. I did, it was very hard, but I am now married to a kind, caring, wonderful OH. I wish her courage and good luck.
She must leave him, no matter what. I did, it was very hard, but I am now married to a kind, caring, wonderful OH. I wish her courage and good luck.
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If you are think seriously about marriage, you would do well to ask yourself.
Men and women who rush into marriage without preparing to take on the responsibilities, involved are really being selfish, failing to think of what they can offer a potential mate. Most of all, though, those contemplating marriage need to be prepared spiritually.
If a couple is to make their marriage last, they need to have the right view of commitment.
In real life, marriage is not an ending; it is a beginning—the start of something that God designed to last, sadly, that is not the common view in today’s world.
Many today see marriage as temporary. They enter into it readily enough because they think that it will suit their needs, but they expect to be able to get out of it as soon as it seems to be challenging. Remember, though, that the Bible uses for a bond such as marriage.
Jesus said: “What God has yoked together let no man put apart.” (Matthew 19:6) If you marry, you need to have the same view of marriage. Does that kind of commitment turn marriage into a burden? No.
A husband and wife need to maintain the right view of each other. If each one strives to focus on the good qualities and efforts of the other, the marriage will be a source of joy.
A husband not showing proper honor to his wife means dishonoring the marriage arrangement and its Maker. But the husband honoring the arrangement will love his wife as his own body, being willing even to give his life on her behalf.—Eph. 5:25, 28-33.
So those entering the marriage union should therefore realize what a serious and weighty responsibility they accept. The Creator of marriage expects his servants to honor it, holding it a honor.
Men and women who rush into marriage without preparing to take on the responsibilities, involved are really being selfish, failing to think of what they can offer a potential mate. Most of all, though, those contemplating marriage need to be prepared spiritually.
If a couple is to make their marriage last, they need to have the right view of commitment.
In real life, marriage is not an ending; it is a beginning—the start of something that God designed to last, sadly, that is not the common view in today’s world.
Many today see marriage as temporary. They enter into it readily enough because they think that it will suit their needs, but they expect to be able to get out of it as soon as it seems to be challenging. Remember, though, that the Bible uses for a bond such as marriage.
Jesus said: “What God has yoked together let no man put apart.” (Matthew 19:6) If you marry, you need to have the same view of marriage. Does that kind of commitment turn marriage into a burden? No.
A husband and wife need to maintain the right view of each other. If each one strives to focus on the good qualities and efforts of the other, the marriage will be a source of joy.
A husband not showing proper honor to his wife means dishonoring the marriage arrangement and its Maker. But the husband honoring the arrangement will love his wife as his own body, being willing even to give his life on her behalf.—Eph. 5:25, 28-33.
So those entering the marriage union should therefore realize what a serious and weighty responsibility they accept. The Creator of marriage expects his servants to honor it, holding it a honor.
Hey tooj - just what you need for yourself and your daughter, when you are both adult enough to know she has made a bad mistake - a high-handed moral lecture from someone of the same faith, underlining what you already know - JW's are self-obsessed, superior know-it-alls with nasty attitudes, and posession of a pseudo-moral high ground to which they have absolutely no right what ever.
In my experience that is quite typical, Last year I had the pleasure of working with one of the kindest gentlest young girls, she was 18 years old and attended her JW meetings religiously, she had a lovely home life etc. Then one day she fell in love with a colleague, she told me that this wasn't going to go down well with her parents. That was an understatement as it turned out. She sat down with her parents to explain her feelings, her parents banned her from their home and told her never to return as long as she was seeing this guy, who was not a JW. JW are a barrel of freaks in my opinion!! Totally brain washed and wouldn't recognise reality if it bit them on the ***!!!
I have been giving this some thought and I now see that the JW issue is a red herring.
His religion has nothing to do with his behaviour. JWs may be more credulous that most people and, without doubt, they can be a nuisance. But this chap is just a nasty piece of work, and a control freak, as someone has already suggested.
Your daughters only real choice here is to leave him with immediate effect.
To me he sounds more than disagreeable......he sounds as if he could be violent, and your daughter has the right to live a safe and happy life, just
like everybody else.
But I too, am somewhat puzzled by the fact that your daughter married him at all, given that he is a JW and she is not. Most odd in my experience.
His religion has nothing to do with his behaviour. JWs may be more credulous that most people and, without doubt, they can be a nuisance. But this chap is just a nasty piece of work, and a control freak, as someone has already suggested.
Your daughters only real choice here is to leave him with immediate effect.
To me he sounds more than disagreeable......he sounds as if he could be violent, and your daughter has the right to live a safe and happy life, just
like everybody else.
But I too, am somewhat puzzled by the fact that your daughter married him at all, given that he is a JW and she is not. Most odd in my experience.
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All religions involve the irrational belief in illogical circumstances. This lot aren't really weirder than any others, except my personal Bete Noir...... Scientologists !
Now they really ARE weird !
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All religions involve the irrational belief in illogical circumstances. This lot aren't really weirder than any others, except my personal Bete Noir...... Scientologists !
Now they really ARE weird !
Your daughter really needs to get out, the situation is not going to improve.
My granny is a JW (she was converted/brainwashed when she had breast cancer - the parasites captured her when she was at her lowest), so I've grown up knowing first hand what they are like.
Yes, some are lovely people with some very strange views on life and some are horrible, controlling creatures.
Could she move in with you in the short term until she gets back on her feet? Sounds like there could be worse future staying in this marriage than leaving and being skint.
(As an aside, since my Granny has become ill with Altzheimers, the JWs have disappeared out of her life. She can no longer "do the work" of harassing folk on their own doorstep, thankfully, so she is not of any use to them anymore. Luckily her dementia has wiped out the JW part of her brain and she's actually quite normal now.)
My granny is a JW (she was converted/brainwashed when she had breast cancer - the parasites captured her when she was at her lowest), so I've grown up knowing first hand what they are like.
Yes, some are lovely people with some very strange views on life and some are horrible, controlling creatures.
Could she move in with you in the short term until she gets back on her feet? Sounds like there could be worse future staying in this marriage than leaving and being skint.
(As an aside, since my Granny has become ill with Altzheimers, the JWs have disappeared out of her life. She can no longer "do the work" of harassing folk on their own doorstep, thankfully, so she is not of any use to them anymore. Luckily her dementia has wiped out the JW part of her brain and she's actually quite normal now.)
Goodlife You say JWs are some of the happiest people on the planet,and you as per usual back this up with a biblical referenceChristians.
Your authority for this is Mathew 5 verse 3 which is the first verse of what Christians know as the Beatitudes.
This reads as "Blessed are the poor in spirit,for theirs is the kingdom of heaven".
What does this have to do with your non Christian sect ?
Your authority for this is Mathew 5 verse 3 which is the first verse of what Christians know as the Beatitudes.
This reads as "Blessed are the poor in spirit,for theirs is the kingdom of heaven".
What does this have to do with your non Christian sect ?
