Perhaps surprisingly for some, I’m going to defend Theland here.
Nailit, you have chosen your path; I’ve chosen mine; Theland and Spungle have chosen theirs.
I’m not going to go criticise or attack anyone for the path they have chosen. That’s their choice and, frankly, it’s none of my business. Especially so, if that choice does not affect me or others in any way.
If someone asks why atheists are interested religious matters, I’ll respond, since I have some experience in that area. However, in my view, there’s no need to seek to proselytise either in favour of a god or Gods, or in favour of an agnostic or atheistic position.
Give information and opinion when asked, but otherwise, as Mamya said at 22.48, try to live a kind, honest life, treat others as we wish to be treated ourselves and just get on with it without justification or preaching. Actions speak louder than words, in my opinion.
People choose their path after some conversations, some thought, some experiences – both positive and negative. Nailit, in your case, there have been some negatives surrounding your religious experiences (your OP). These have driven you down your current path.
Theland has had different experiences, and those have sent him down a different path.
I’ll say quite happily that Theland comes across (to me) as a bit misguided. I have little doubt that I come across to him as equally misguided (probably more so). But for Theland, and also for me, that is our choice. I am perfectly comfortable in that choice. Theland says he is also comfortable with his choices. Nailit says he is comfortable with his own choices. Naomi is comfortable with her choices.
So what’s the problem? Live and let live.
In fact, that's a re-phrasing of the only moral code you need to live by: 'treat others as you would wish to be treated yourself' That needs no heaven-sent inspiration. It's just a common-sense, practical and eminently workable rule for getting along with other people.