Would you have a problem...

[missjef]

if one of your children was gay? i myself would not have any problem whatsoever, in this day & age i don't see why anyone would unless they were very religious i suppose.
i ask this question after reading a question on 'relationship's & dating' and being truly shocked by the attitude of the poster.
i also have just watched 'This morning' where a woman has been in tears on the phone saying that she feels as though she has been punished because her son is gay.
I can understand that it may come as a shock, but to feel as though you are being punished, i think is wrong.
what are your thoughts on this?

[jiggy-gb]

No problem at all, but then I live in Manchester where homosexuality is nothing exciting nor unusual. If I lived in the sticks then my attitude might change as I would fear for their safety against ignorance a bit more.

[Octavius]

I like to think and believe I wouldn�t, but until that happened I cannot be sure how I would react or deal with it.

[bill preston]

we have a member of our family on my mothers side that came out about 20yrs ago, it caused no ruction's what so ever as i think everybody just expected it?

if my own children were to announce they are gay i would be a little disappointed as i perhaps dream of the day when they have their own careers and home life and in my imagination i can see a wife/husband and children in the picture, but if this does happen then i only hope they are happy with the choice they make and they will have my full support.

[tiny e.a]

If I'm honest, deep down in my heart I might feel disappointed when I initially found out, not disappointed in my child, I don't know what I'd be dissappointed in really, perhaps that everything I'd imagined for their future I'd imagined wrong or something. I'd fully realise though that I wasn't entitled to any such feelings and I would accept the fact immediately. I'd love my child as much as ever and accept their partner just as I would the partner of a heterosexual child.

[PatriciaH]

I would be shocked at first i think... but would stand by him/ her whatever

[Pippa68]

I would like to think I wouldn't even be shocked as I would probably have had an inkling when they were growing up!

[redcrx]

Id like to think that I'd accept it without any thought but you cant really tell until in that position.

Of course, I do know that I couldnt push my son aside.

[daffy654]

My 20 year old stepson came out last year to his dad,I wasn't shocked or surprised but his dad was. We accepted the situation immediately and have treated him no differently than before.

[Doc Spock]

Extremely disappointed and let down. Also angry with myself for not examining my ancestry to determine when exactly the genes got messed up.

If my family tree showed evidence of gene deformity I would not have children.

Thankfully I come from good wholesome stock.

No wimps and nancy boys in my lineage.

[Hellyon]

i agree with Pippa that you would probably deep down have an inkling. I wouldn't have a problem but I would feel sad as Bill Preston says you picture your childs future in a certain way and I would be sad to miss out on grandchildren (although that is not a definite anymore) but as long as my child is happy in life and relationships I would be content for him.

[redcrx]

legend, I dont have a daughter! But same would be said if i did have :)

[paulos66]

Doc, your post gives me all the evidence I need of gene deformity

[laurence2]

If i found out either of my two boys turned out gay, i would truely be devastated at first.

This is because like many others i could not visualise this happening to ''my'' sons.

You build a picture from the outset on how you would like your children to turn out as they start to grow up ie education, manners, work, getting married & getting on the property ladder etc etc, so when suddenly these plans of yours are somewhat interupted by the news that your son is gay, it throws you into turmoil ie what will everyone think, why my son, thats sick {two men together} etc etc.

But at the end of the day i would have to accept his decision, it will only turn him against you if you show your hatred towards gays, i do not have an issue with gay people, unfortunately we live in a society where a number of people detest gays.

And thats wrong.

[nutgoneflake]

I would have no problem with it, and hope that they would always feel they could talk to me. I also hope that I would have seen it coming - as bill said, I'm sure it would be expected if the family's close enough to suspect. (I have a cousin who came out when we were both mid-twenties, so quite late, but we all already knew too!) I'd never see it as a punishment - what kind of narrow mind thinks that?? It's crazy!

The only thing I would shed a tear for would be the almost certain knowledge that my boys wouldn't know the unbending, uncompromising love that I have for them as my babies, when they had THEIR babies. I know, before anyone snaps at me, that gay men father children, but the chances are obviously a lot lower!

[Pippa68]

I was actually quite disappointed when my son turned out not to be gay...I reckon I am like Edina Monsoon in 'Ab Fab', more's the pity ;o)

[Doc Spock]

This post is seeking opinions I gave mine.


I have a drinking associate who is a "queen", ( his word).

He accepts he is more female in his manerisms, dress and general behaviour. Walks with a mince etc, the epitome of being camp as a nine bob note.

There is as he admits something not quite firing on all cylinders regarding his genetic make up.