What Is This Friend Like?

[abbeylee90]

I decided to make a new thread about the one that doesn't bother with me since she moved in with her partner.

The other day I seen her down the dogs home while she was working and they gave us a duo she then asked to see if they will walk on thier own which I said they like to be together all the time, I don't think she was happy. I keep thinking I'm going off her we were very close I use to tell her everything.

[barry1010]

Sometimes friendships come to a natural end, life takes us in different directions, we get new hobbies and interests or simply life just gets in the way.

It's time to move on, Abbey

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, I think we've told you this before - people, friendships, move on for all sorts of reasons. I think you'll have to accept that the friend went off you! You've posted many many times that she 'doesn't bother with you' since she moved in with her partner. It's maybe good that you're now 'going off her', maybe it's a sign that you're accepting the friendship is nothing like it used to be. 

[Tuvok]

Abbey - punctuation and re-read before you post.

[calmck]

I thought you had "gone off her" some time ago. Time to move on Abbey. You will never enjoy life if you don't stop dwelling on the past. It's time you become your own person and make your own decisions.

[Barmaid]

Stop worrying about what other people think.  You cannot control what others think or feel. You can only deal with your reaction to them.  OK, she may not have been happy, but not a thing you can do about that.  Move on and concentrate on yourself.

[1ozzy]

🥱

A new thread will give you a repeat of all the answers you received last time.

Do you really want to punish yourself?

[newmodarmy]

How do you define a friend Abbey?

[abbeylee90]

Went off said she couldn't be close friend with my others and now she licks her a**s like no tomorrow.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, if the friend's behaviour is as awful as you claim, why are you still - after months and months and months - asking us for our opinions? Maybe you were very close once and maybe you did tell her everything, but maybe- just maybe - she no longer wants that. Move on!

[Smowball]

Agree with everyone here - up until just 6 months ago I had a very close  friend that I spoke to every day, told her everything etc - she only lives 5 mins  away. Anyway, something happened with another mutual friend & she did something unforgiveable,&  as much as it pained me I knew that the friendship had changed instantly,&  that I would never be able to forgive her, or be the same around her. So instead of stressing, fretting, getting myself in a tizzy etc I told her that. It was hard, and upsetting, but that was that, and I moved on. Have never seen her since. Sometimes life just changes, people change, things happen...... there are lots more new friends out there for you to find x

[DDIL]

Sounds like all this friend did was move on with her life.

Now its time that you move on.

[abbeylee90]

If I got into a relationship now she would be the last to know when it would have been other way round before.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, after your last remark... and? Do you think you getting into a relationship now and the friend being the last to know would make any difference to her? I don't think that news would make her think again, she'd maybe even be relieved!

[MargoTester]

I noticed this morning that Lidl are recruiting staff and searched for Cardiff. They have Customer Assistant vacancies in their Tundall Street and Cardiff Bay Retail Park branches, why don't you make some enquiries?

[naomi24]

I don't think abbey wants shop work, Margo.

[abbeylee90]

I started speaking to this guy and no I don't think she will care about being the last to know.

[jourdain2]

So forget about her, as others have said. :)

[abbeylee90]

Been told you have work extra hard and difficult hours in lidl

[DDIL]

With the greatest of respect you should work extra hard in all your jobs 

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, if you think the friend 'won't care', what's the point in you saying that she'll be the last to know if you get into a relationship? It just seems so, so pointless for you to go on about things that don't matter to anyone!