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I'm part of a large and luckily, close family. We couldn't get together at Christmas because of numbers and because we're spread all over the country. We arranged a post Christmas lunch with the main guest of honour being my 94 year old Mum who is not in good health. I was so pleased that both my sons said they could make it, especially as they could catch up with all their cousins and they are fond of their Grandma. A few days before I received an email from one of my sons saying, "Sorry, but I can't make it. I'm going on a skiing trip but will write to Grandma and see her in February" I sent a very carefully worded reply as I don't want to fall out with my son. His brother was a little more frank in a text message he sent. Am I over reacting because I feel so disappointed? The family thought he was away on a work trip but now he has posted photos on Facebook which I thought a little tactless.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I still feel guilty because I chose to go to another party instead of my grandparents' 40th anniversary do. No one made anything of it at the time, and I expect everyone's forgotten I wasn't there.
Don't make a big thing of it. He might feel a bit bad about it in time and will make more of an effort next time.
Don't make a big thing of it. He might feel a bit bad about it in time and will make more of an effort next time.
He didn't lie to you when he cancelled, though you say the family thought he was away on business...how did they think that? Is that what he told them...or was it an assumption?
But...he did tell *you* the truth. That counts for something.
My daughter couldn't be with me for my 70th...they had a wedding invite. I felt very hurt, but never said anything. Young people may not see these dates as milestones as we do.
But...he did tell *you* the truth. That counts for something.
My daughter couldn't be with me for my 70th...they had a wedding invite. I felt very hurt, but never said anything. Young people may not see these dates as milestones as we do.
I do not think you are overreacting in being disappointed. However, your son does have his own life and it can sometimes be difficult to fit in time away (booking leave etc). He has acknowledged his grandmother and her probable disappointment and said he will write to her and see her in Feb.
We recently accepted an invitation and then had the opportunity to go abroad for a week. In the event we decided not to go abroad and honour the invite we had accepted which both of us now bitterly regret since that was our last opportunity to get some much needed r and r for some time.
I would express your disappointment mildly, but equally hope that your son had a good time. Given the closeness of your family it would be a shame to fall out over this and you seem alive to that.
We recently accepted an invitation and then had the opportunity to go abroad for a week. In the event we decided not to go abroad and honour the invite we had accepted which both of us now bitterly regret since that was our last opportunity to get some much needed r and r for some time.
I would express your disappointment mildly, but equally hope that your son had a good time. Given the closeness of your family it would be a shame to fall out over this and you seem alive to that.