>>>mine is windows mail
Oh no it's not! Windows Mail is an email client. i.e. it's just a
program which lets you access your email account; it's not the actual account itself.
I'm guessing that you previously used Vista (because Windows Mail was the email client provided with it). Windows 8 doesn't use that program; instead it offers you Outlook (which is what nearly all businesses use).
You need to accept the Outlook option and follow the instructions here:
http://office.microsoft.com/en-gb/web-apps-help/set-up-email-in-windows-8-mail-HA102834576.aspx
Chris