Jobs & Education1 min ago
Major Father Issues?! Someone Help Me!
2 Answers
Ok, this is really hard to explain. I haven't seen my father since i was eight years old, i'm sixteen now. i now live with my grandparents. My grandparents HATE like REALLY HATE my father because of some past issues that do not involve me. Because of this they refuse to let me contact him. here's what happened, first i created a fake facebook account with a name similar to mine and started just kind of stalking him to see what his life was like. I liked a few of his posts and he sent me a friend request. My mother, who i visit every few weeks, called him and left msgs on his phone saying i would be trying to get into contact with him. but because of past problems with them (divorce etc) he hasn't replied. I am still not sure if he got them or not. My father is a musician and when i was seven he wrote a song about me, so i made the title of the song my banner on fb. I posted three poems that referred to me moving away and other things like "Can't you see, it's me?". He sent me a friend request and i accepted. He liked all my poems. then i made my profile picture a photo of me wearing the necklaces he bought me when i was little. He sent me a msg after a few days, addressing me as if i were one of his fans (he is in three different bands) but heres the thing, everything he mentioned in the msg is something i was there for when i was traveling with him (meeting certain artists ect) he enclosed three photos and IM IN ONE OF THEM from when we met some artist. I posted more poetry referring to me being his daughter and used a lot of lyrics from his album to write it. He liked all of them. then i used my friends to help me out, and they had me post ten facts about myself, so i posted ten facts about myself that related to him/things he knows about me like how my front teeth are fake and that we have the same favorite foods. he comments "Sounds like a good time to me!" he commented on a few other posts i put up, but nothing significant. I then went through ALL of his news feed and found a post he was tagged in on fathers day by a friend. he allowed that post to be shown on his wall, and liked it, meaning that he actually TELLS people he has a daughter, which i didn't know if he did or not.
Here's my problem. I have absolutely no idea what to do from here. All of my friends are trying to help me. Like, i had a birthday party at his house when i was little, so i asked my friends what they remembered about it and one of them said "He ate moldy cheese and said "well, somebody's gotta eat it!" so i put up a post "Somebody's gotta eat the moldy cheese" unfortunately he didn't even like that one. I was thinking that maybe i'll change my name to my real name on the account and see what happens. But i'm afraid he'll just block me. I don't know if he wants contact with me, i only know that i want contact with him. So many sings are saying he knows and yet so many are saying he doesn't. I'm really confused and this is taking over my life. All my friends say im not acting like myself, and i know im not. I just need someone to tell me what to do from here. please help me!
Additional info:
All family members who may disprove of my contact with him have been blocked from the account
I cannot talk to anyone about this except my mother about once a month
there is no abuse/issues between he and i, just my idiot fighting family members who hold grudges too long.
Here's my problem. I have absolutely no idea what to do from here. All of my friends are trying to help me. Like, i had a birthday party at his house when i was little, so i asked my friends what they remembered about it and one of them said "He ate moldy cheese and said "well, somebody's gotta eat it!" so i put up a post "Somebody's gotta eat the moldy cheese" unfortunately he didn't even like that one. I was thinking that maybe i'll change my name to my real name on the account and see what happens. But i'm afraid he'll just block me. I don't know if he wants contact with me, i only know that i want contact with him. So many sings are saying he knows and yet so many are saying he doesn't. I'm really confused and this is taking over my life. All my friends say im not acting like myself, and i know im not. I just need someone to tell me what to do from here. please help me!
Additional info:
All family members who may disprove of my contact with him have been blocked from the account
I cannot talk to anyone about this except my mother about once a month
there is no abuse/issues between he and i, just my idiot fighting family members who hold grudges too long.
Answers
Best Answer
No best answer has yet been selected by KatDemona. Once a best answer has been selected, it will be shown here.
For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Do you have his home address or phone number? It might be better to talk to him properly, not just through likes on Facebook. You could send him a private message asking for proper contact. If he says no, then you know where you are, even though it might be very upsetting to hear that from him.
Some men, however nice or fun they may seem are crap dads. Maybe he wants to be a good dad but doesn't know how.
Send him a message saying who you are and what you want, and see how you go from there.
Some men, however nice or fun they may seem are crap dads. Maybe he wants to be a good dad but doesn't know how.
Send him a message saying who you are and what you want, and see how you go from there.
-- answer removed --
Related Questions
Sorry, we can't find any related questions. Try using the search bar at the top of the page to search for some keywords, or choose a topic and submit your own question.