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I've Got A Problem
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Well probably more than one - but this one in particular is bothering me. Here goes - my sister (aged 76) lived in Spain with her husband (aged 86) for the last 25 years or so. I have never been there mainly because do not like heat, although we spoke every week via Skype so I know how they lived. She has died, suddenly. She always thought her husband would die first, although I must admit he seemed very active. He is whatever a local councillor would be in Spain and went out every day, whereas she was more housebound. He was out when we talked so she told me many of her secrets especially the one about the woman friend he has. He rang to tell me that she had died. Then he rang and said he would like to bring her ashes over here and I said he should wait to see what sort of money he had before he made any plans (I knew there was none and probably large bills). Now the phone number which I have rang at various times in the day is not being answered and is not making the normal noise. It might be the Spanish equivalent of engaged or something like that. Short of actually going over there and knocking on the door is there any way I can find out what has happened? I do not know who the neighbours are so I cannot contact them. So, I have her address and her phone number and her email address, which he does not access so that is useless. I would like to know what is going on so that I can move on. Any suggestions, anybody? Hope I haven't rambled too much.
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Good morning, Starone. (I really must go to bed soon!) I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Try a phone call to the nearest British Consulate, saying that you're concerned for the welfare of your brother- in- law. They might be able to get someone (such as a local police officer) to call on him. Phone numbers here:...
05:19 Tue 05th Nov 2013
Good morning, Starone. (I really must go to bed soon!)
I'm sorry to hear of your loss.
Try a phone call to the nearest British Consulate, saying that you're concerned for the welfare of your brother-in-law. They might be able to get someone (such as a local police officer) to call on him. Phone numbers here:
https:/ /www.go v.uk/go vernmen t/world /organi sations /britis h-embas sy-madr id
(Scroll down towards the bottom of the page).
Chris
BTW: If you want to check whether it's the engaged tone that you're hearing (rather than, say, a fault) play the recording here:
http:// www.the phonebo ok.bt.c om/publ isha.co ntent/e n/searc h/inter nationa l/recor d.dialt ones.pu blisha? id=L201
I'm sorry to hear of your loss.
Try a phone call to the nearest British Consulate, saying that you're concerned for the welfare of your brother-in-law. They might be able to get someone (such as a local police officer) to call on him. Phone numbers here:
https:/
(Scroll down towards the bottom of the page).
Chris
BTW: If you want to check whether it's the engaged tone that you're hearing (rather than, say, a fault) play the recording here:
http://
Sorry to hear your news Star, you must feel very empty at the moment without your sister.
While you continue to try contacting your BIL, would it be worth getting a traditional letter into the post? Pop it in a condolence card and give your BIL all you various contact methods just in case he's mislaid them. Does he have anyone with him? Could you try another family member?
While you continue to try contacting your BIL, would it be worth getting a traditional letter into the post? Pop it in a condolence card and give your BIL all you various contact methods just in case he's mislaid them. Does he have anyone with him? Could you try another family member?
That's strange, I posted an answer and it seems to have disappeared. I'll try again (hope it doesn't show twice). Anyway, I wanted to thank everyone for their kind words and suggestions. You are always there to help me when I need it. I have tried your sounds Chris and it is definitely not either of those sounds, so don't know what it could be. Thanks also for your link about the British Consulate. I am going to get all my facts together and try them. Will let you know what happens. Chris, I think you must have a halo and very large white wings, you are so helpful to everyone, not only me. Thanks again.
is it a landline or mobile? perhaps he is just out a lot? or simply doesnt want to talk to anyone - grief can be like that for some people - they just want to be alone.
how long ago was this? he could also just be at his ladyfriends house - i know thats not nice, but i expect he doesnt want to sit around in an empty house.
how long ago was this? he could also just be at his ladyfriends house - i know thats not nice, but i expect he doesnt want to sit around in an empty house.