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Nat13 | 12:33 Sun 29th Apr 2007 | Relationships & Dating
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I've been with my boyfriend for just over 2 months now, and it was good to start with. Over the past 3 weeks or so we started arguing, normally ending in us breaking up, but getting back together a few hours later after we both cooled down. However, i went on holiday and while i was there we had an argument we broke up and i went out got stupidly drunk and slept with one of the people who was working at my hotel. i kept this from my boyfriend until yesterday as we were having an argument about his sexuality, as he is bisexual and i didnt know if i could handle this. Especially as i found out he was texting a guy that he was seeing before me. We argued about this, but he said i was overreacting!!
one of the main problems is that in all the other times we have broken up he has cut and burnt himself with cigarettes on his leg.
I can't handle being with him anymore as he suffers from depression and is often suicidal, with all the arguing on top its too much.
I have tried to end it properly but i know he will do something stupid like burn himself more or maybe even kill himself.
as im 16, and he's 19 he's a lot more experienced than i am with relationships. so am i doing the right thing trying to get out? i dont want to leave him on his own as i'd hate it if he did hurt himself more, but i cant handle it.
please help.
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oh my why are u with someone that is bisexual ? is he using protection when he is with you i hope so , and u go and sleep with someone else ! god a ,match made in heaven .
walk away have some pride
You certainly dont need that sort of burden at your age as he will only become more dependant on you - You cant stay for fear of him hurting himself if you leave.

Be brave and walk away x
I think you know deep down that you must walk away from this disruptive and unhealthy relationship as soon as you can x
Redhead23 - What is wrong with someone being bi-sexual?

Nat13 - You've said yourself you don't want to be with him so you need to pluck up the courage to tell him so. It won't be nice for either of you but you can't hold yourself responsible for the actions of someone else, especially at your age. If you are really concerned that he may do something to himself you could try having a word with a friend of his maybe, asking them to check he is ok but remember he is not your responisibility and you have to do what you want.
Nat.....he is responsible for his life not you. You have absolutely no control over what he does. You have to make the decision that is best for you and walk away. If he does something silly after you do that then that is 100% down to him and nothing at all to do with you.

so he got with you at 16years and knew he was Bi then. I think you have a very confused boyf on yourn hands and also it is not fair for him to make you feel bad. Finish it and get away.
Sorry 4get but if he is 19 and they have been together 2 months, im really confused as to how they got together when he was 16!
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i didnt say he was 16, well i don't think i did. If i did, that wasn't what i meant.
You have been with him for 2months but by the sound of it your like a married couple. He shouldnt be puttin all this presure on u as your young!!! id get out of it! ive been in a simular situation one of my ex's sed he was gunna cut his wrists if i didnt get bk with him but we sorted it out. Just talk to him and explain how your feeling and if he doesnt listen GET RID!!!
your way too young to be getting into all this.Don't let this guy blackmail you.Maybe you should tell a member of his family if you are concerned for his welfare but don't get personally involved with him any more.This is a bad relationship.
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i just wanted to say thanks for the help everybody.
i finished the relationship yesterday.
i just hope he's okay.
i just want to say well done.Good for you.Now be tough and stick to your guns.You deserve better.Good luck

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