Feeling Really Crappy Tonight Severe Anxiety Did Not Travel Because Of It Try Again Or Give Up?

[gordiescotland1]

HI i feel really uptight I was supposed to go to Manchester tonight for my nephews confirmation and I backed out of going because of racing thoughts and severe anxiety it built up inside me for 3 days and then I just couldnt get on the train I have lost a total of £90 on tickets and accommadation and I still feel really anxious it felt like adrenaline racing through me and it still is but the racing thoughts have gone probably because pressure off. I had told everyone in church I was going made a huge thing of it my parents were going to pay a cat sitter who I have had to text and tell it is all off. They have told me to accept that I cant travel and stop causing them anxiety and they will tell my brother whose son is being confirmed but part of me feels like trying again I have a room booked for friday guarenteed with debit card that if I cancel before 1pm it is ok otherwise £120 i know a bit of a risk but my parents are not being supportive in saying they will go without me and they dont want involved in any more of my travel plans they are going on friday on the train but they dont want me to go with them because they say that my anxiety will affect them thanks for everyone who tried to help. Im feeling crap and totally mortified mentally and physically exhausted should I give up?

[grasscarp]

If you feel you can then go for it. Only you know if it will be possible. Just think how pleased you will be if you take back control of your life and manage to do things without relying on others.
If you cant do it without support then you will have to accept you are not up to it and cancel the room before it is too late to get money back.

[ummmm]

Did you actually make it to the train station?

[jackthehat]

Does it really matter what anyone here advises?
You'll do exactly what you want/feel you need to do.

What support do you feel that your parents ought to have given you?

[murraymints]

deep breaths and have another go ! it is a pity your folks are not being more supportive though...think of how pleased your nephew will be..and you...stop stressing ..try and relax..is there a friend that can accompany you to the station and see you off ?? good luck xx

[Peter Pedant]

I am really sorry about that Gordie ....

[bednobs]

yes, give it up.
I also wonder what other support you actually want your parents to give you. They are not young people and have their own worries

[Bathsheba]

Gordie, are you taking any medication for your anxiety?

Baths

x x

[whirlyhurly]

I feel that you are being very hard on yourself. Just (as I do with my anxiety) accept your limitations, as often pushing oneself can make matters worse.

[jennyjoan]

would you have a touch of agoraphobia - maybe get help for that.

[Mamyalynne]

True anxiety is a terrible thing , I like others have battled it often - I hope you reach a stage you can accept the decision you make.

Either go and fight the fear.
Or don't go and accept you did all you could.

[wolf63]

I really wish that I could do or say something that will help. I know how you feel and understand that such things get to be out of control and overwhelming.

I could say that your parents could understand how you feel, or try, but maybe they are too old to change.

I dint know what to suggest, my life is in a mess due to mental health issues, but I wish you luck. You need to step back and calmly analyse the thoughts.


:-)

[jennyjoan]

as Mamy said - stop fighting with yourself and peace may be come to you. I worried about everything and now I try to stop fighting with myself and it has helped me a wee bit. Try and get something from your GP.

[Prudie]

I'm always amazed by how many of us have experienced anxiety, me included. Just do whatever will make you feel better - either staying or going.
Don't be hard on your parents, other's mental problems can be quite scary and if they'd rather not face up to it then let that go.

[Baldric]

///my parents are not being supportive in saying they will go without me and they dont want involved in any more of my travel plans///

Going back through your posts I think your Parents have been very supportive of you for a long time. Everyone's patience, including Parents, has a breaking point, you do seem to take advantage of them.
What do you want us to tell you? only you can sort this out, if you really want to do it you will. No amount of sympathy from people on this site will help.
Geordie, this is meant in the nicest possible way, there is no other way to say it
"Put up or Shut up!"
Good Luck!

[237SJ]

"Put up or shut up" I`m not sure that is the best advice. You don`t know the situation as far as some peoples' mental state is concerned.

[ummmm]

We do know what he's posted on here.

[bednobs]

whoever said people had to give the *best* advice? and who is to say that isn't the best advice ... after all "you don't know the situation...."

[237SJ]

Yes, but nobody can make an evaluation from a few posts on a website. Some people just need input from a clinical psychiatrist or at the very least, a psychologist.

[Baldric]

237SJ, have a look at some previous posts, they do give a few pointers.

[237SJ]

It doesn`t really matter - nobody on here is qualified to give educated help to some posters in some circumstances and they could be doing more harm than good.