Never cheated, Never would

[laurence2]

would just like to touch on pixie woo post in {is porn that big of a deal}

She says, that her & her partner have never cheated and never would, myself and my wife would also be in this category.

My question is tho,
can you trust someone to the extent that your in the ''comfort zone'' with them so to speak, therefore making yourself possibly vulnerable to being cheated on, or can you like pixie & myself have ''TOTAL'' trust in your partners no matter what

[Miss Inquiry]

I am 100% sure Mr Inquiry would not cheat on me. I have never had such faith in previous partners. His whole attitude to people and the way he treats others demonstrates this. Similarly I would not cheat on him. When you TRULEY love someone, I feel that there is nothing at all you could do to hurt them. The thought of something I have done hurting him would kill me.

[chazza]

I feel exactly the same as Miss Inquiry!

[dizydosydoll]

i have to say that nothing is 100% so there is always the possibility

[Lonnie]

In answer to your question, my wife and I are celebrating twenty nine years at the end of this month, and we both have total trust in each other.

I have been tempted, and there have been one or two young women who have come onto me, but, I always think what I would lose if I did stray.

Its never happened, and it never will, She's diamonds wrapped in gold.

[pixie_woo]

Lonnie, that is lovely. I like that you can acknowledge reality in that there are temptations but the fact that you have stayed true is great.
I hope my husband and I are as happy as you after 29 years (we've only got 2 years under out belt)

[noxlumos]

For her own reasons, my wife gave me a carte blanche to sleep with whomsoever I wished when we got together as she believes that men are not naturally monogamous providing I followed certain rules, the main one being that it was only casual sex not a relationship (so only once) and I must let her know that it has happened. I've never felt the need to do this as she fulfills me completely and I in no way feel trapped.I feel repected and trusted and I extend the same to my wife.She said if she ever felt she wanted to sleep with anyone else , it would be because our realtionship was over for her, therefore yes we are in a situation where we trust one another completely.

[daisy48]

Lonnie, What lovely words. I know how you feel as my hubby means the whole world to me. We both had bad marriage's previously but together we've learned what a good marriage is all about. We celebrate our 25th anniversary soon. I could never be unfaithful to him and I trust him completely. Like any other couple we have our spat's but we often end up laughing about it later.

[wonderwoman1]

Unfortunately I have been cheated on a few times so at this moment in time I would say it would be very difficult for me to trust someone else and for that reason I have stayed away from any new relationships.
I would NEVER cheat on anyone...I know the hurt it causes and I couldnt bring myself to hurt anyone in that way.

[daisy48]

Know how you feel WW1, I was cheated on by my 1st husband when my 2 older son's were little. He broke their heart's and even had the cheek to ask them to help him carry his cases out! Needless to say they never ever wanted to see him again which was just as well as he did'nt even bother sending them a birthday or Xmas card. They've looked upon their stepdad as "Dad" for years. Strange how we can look back and laugh about it now.

[spurslady]

I think it is easier for a man to trust a woman 100% then a woman to trust a man.

Dont ask me why I know in my heart mypartner wont cheat he hasnt yet after 10 years and neither have I, but my dad did and it leaves lasting scars on you.

You think if one can others can. Its my problem though not his and I need to work through it.

[laurence2]

Thankyou for your replies.

Its nice to know in this day and age with so many relationship breakdowns that there is still ''TRUST'' between each other

Lonnie, lovely post, i,ve still got another 14 years before i catch you up!!

WW1, sorry that you haven't come across the man yet that your trust & commitment deserve, keep looking, my sister-in-law was in exactly the same situation, and found mr right.

Nox, thats a true test of a mans loyalty {your post} i know many that would of abused that offer.

Daisy, what a nasty Bar$tard your ex was, to do that to the children then wash there hands on them is unforgivable.


Thankyou all again

[Goodsoulette]

Of course you can, if you are with the right partner, if you feel that you are about to cheat or are cheating then surely your relationship is dead anyway.

[daisy48]

Know what you mean Goodsoullette, My ex left me and the kids 4 times but kept coming back saying how much he missed and loved us. I gave him a final chance because of my boys but he still carried on having flings. My love for him was fading by then anyway and I'd lost all respect for him.

[daisy48]

Laurence2. Yeah it was cruel,this was the final time my ex left. He'd packed all his things and even took the stereo for his new ladyfriend! She was a divorcee with a toddler and my ex took over as his Dad while my boys got nothing. I even had to fight to get maintainence for em. I got a job so I could pay the mortgage,hard going but we got there. My elser son now aged 34 met his dad 2 years ago and ended up giving him a right pasting. I suppose it was all the hurt coming out. I dont condone violence but my sons said he deserved it and felt much better for it.