Can't Get Him Out Of My Head!

[Zammo]

I should b happy with my life, I've got a good job, nice flat, good friends and family but I'm always feeling really de-motivated. I never look forward to things I should look forward to. I think the main reason I'm feeling like this is because of this guy that I really like. I met him 5 months ago and we started a casual relationship which suited us both, he wasn't in to dating because he'd just got out of a serious relationship but now I have feelings for him, and I'm pretty sure he's getting back with his ex. I can't stop thinking about them together, and without sounding like a psycho stalker I think about him all the time. People say I should move on but everytime I try I compare everyone to him....it's really getting me down....please help. :-(

[spk]

Is it maybe a lust thing Zammo? I know you really like him but is it maybe because hes a bit of a challenge and you know he isnt 100% available? What makes this guy so special where can you see it going?

[Zammo]

Yeah maybe it is. I don't really see it going anywhere to tell you the truth but it's not making it any easier to forget about him. Thanks.

[spk]

Maybe you should stop comparing him to people. I know its what everybody else will be telling you as well but its probably in your best interests to end it. Its difficult but it sounds like he is having his cake and eating it and hes been living in your head rent free for far too long. Enjoy being fully single for a bit or go for someone else thats 100% available for you. Why should you have to share you are worth more than that. It will get easier but still seeing him wont help. Hes a self destruct button by the sounds of it

[EminOz]

i think youve hit the nail on the head spk! Zammo, I think im the expert of obsessing and thinking about someone i cant have, and i can tell you that it all leads to nowhere. the fact that this guy might be back with his ex makes him even more attractive because we all want what we cant have. Im serious, this is why a hot guy walking down the street with a girl on his arm is way more attractive than a guy walking alone. You should observe this phenomenon next time youre strutting down the high street.

stop obsessing and move on, dont waste yourself!

[spk]

I couldnt have said it better eminoz...

[rescuer]

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