men huh!!!!

[sarah*]

Right just need some advice

Ive got a real good best mate (male) and weve been close mates for 2 years now.

i really like him and have done for ages and he did ask me out last xmas but due to other reasons i was bit hesitant to say yes any way when i did make up my mind he had a gf so was a bit too late

any way we have stayed mates and he does no i like him, he says he is my best mate and im always there for him which i make sure i am. he is there for me aswell and we both reckon we have got alot closer. i tell him everything and he tells me everything aswell and we txt each other nearly everyday, i dont think i could go with out him and he said the same to me the other day, i still really like him but i wouldnt get in the way with him and his gf. i just cant help feeling guilty sometimes for liking him tho, its just all confusing and we both flirt like mad, we have always done this. i did tell him i felt guilty but he said just carry n being how you always are to me and he says he is flattered i like him but i feel so confused. what should i do, stop txting and flirtin as much but inside i dont want to do that or just stay the same with him help

[Octavius]

I think if he is serious about his relationship with his gf he should also take some responsibility. As you say I would tone it down a bit and hope that he does the same, after all you wouldn't want to be responsible for a break up - unless that is what is meant to be. In any event he needs to come to that conclusion on his own without any encouragement / intereference from you.

[sarah*]

well noticed ward- minter, this aint the real sarah if you no what i mean, ive used the real sarah username, havnt had time to make my own yet, but she let me before you all ask

[Hermit]

I think you should just tell him straight -I'd really like to go out with you but not a bit on the side so if you want to go out with me, break up with your gf; if you don't then stop flirting and just be regular friends b4 his gf gets the hump and/or you get sucked in too deep.

[rugeleyboy]

sussed by ward minter!!

[4getmenot]

You said no in first place, he seems happy with his girlfriend. And its seems to me if he was really interested he would have left his girlfriend. Just try and stay mates and leave it as that. I�m sure if he dumped his girlfriend for you it wouldn�t be the same as the flirting you are doing now and you�d probably wish you were just mates again. Just go with the flow, he knows how you feel, the balls in his court now.

[wonder years]

i think if you went out with him and it all went wrong your friendship would not be the same on the other if you if you didnt og out together you will always wonder what might have been