Help! Can I trust him - Part 2

[jkkerr]

Well, I confronted him. I decided to be honest (hey, someone ought to be) so I just told him I'd read his texts and he immediately knew that i'd seen something from this girl.

Apparently he has a history with her but he'd already decided before I confronted him that he was just going to be friends with her...ie...he wasn't cheating anymore.

I believe him but now all the good things that have happened seem like a lie.

Can't decide if it's worth trying.

[PinkFizz]

very awkward.He may now just decide to be more secrective as you have been thru his phone,and then you wouldnt know anyway would you.But you couldn't have trusted him 100% to have looked at his phone in the first place.I think that there will be an underlying lack of trust there between you both now,which is going to be hard to change.

[girl_lesbian]

Why do you still want to be with a man who has cheated on you? Surely you deserve better than that? If you stay with him hunny, all you are doing is showing him that he can do whatever the hell he wants and you will take it. My advice is ditch him and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are, love you and be faithful x

[4getmenot]

But from the text you found he cheated on you. Abd didnt he meet her when you went way. You are always gonna be wondering and freaking out everytime his phone goes or he texts someone. What did he say to you looking at his phone?

[jkkerr]

he never said anything about it

i suppose i'm just gutted cause i really liked him...i thought he was perfect! duh

[atolhurst]

Shallow as a puddle to be carrying on with someone behind your back. Hate to say it but you clearly don't mean that much to him. It's his loss.

I dated someone once upon a time, who cheated on me - once I knew about it, I had to put an end to the relationship. The trust had gone.

[WendyS]

No it's not worth trying. When you're in denial the only person you are deseiving is yourself. If you're going to spend the rest of your time with him wondering whether you can trust him or not, one of the core values of your relationship has been destroyed.

[Pippa68]

Nah...it's definately not worth it. No way on this earth is he going to 'just be friends' with her.


Move on..find someone who will put you above any others ~ you deserve it :o)

[jkkerr]

cheers Pippa, that's what I said

I know really that it's not going to work. Just gutted.

boo

[Octavius]

Hang on, so he cheated on you with her and now he is just going to be friends with her and you will accept this??

Please don't be a doormat, plenty of nice men out there who will be wonderful for you.

[raysparx]

Hi jk,

I agree with the others,you are worth more than that, nobody has a right to screw your head like that,if the trust has gone so has the love,kick him into touch, I know it is hard but don't let anybody walk over you,hope things get better for you, take care, Ray xx

[littlemissx]

Hi JK

if you look back at my posts you will see that recently i was in the same situation. i read his messages and confronted him.... well actually i went mad at him... but either way i decided after seeing his reaction to give him another chance.... this though is his only chance.

so far so good though hun and i still love him and he loves me xx

good luck xx

[jkkerr]

Cheers littlemissx!

I saw him again today and am feeling much better.

He said he didn't take 'us' very seriously for the first wee while, but he has loved being with me for the past month or so and he says he knows that he won't be any more than friends with her, and that he won't be doing anything with anyone else either.

Maybe I'm being naive but I really want to believe him.

[raysparx]

Hi jk,

I hope he doesn't ever let you down again,if you feel you can forgive him that is fine, good luck, I really hope you are happy, Take care, Ray xx