Breaking point reached yesterday

[Smowball]

Am really writing this out of frustration, as I honestly dont know what to do.
You all know relationship between hubby and son at home are strained - mostly because he doesnt see his own child( or so I thought).
Yesterday son returned home from France. He had still got fathers day card and prezzie for hubbby(his step father). His own daughter sent nothing.I did lovely meal. During meal son started chat about his friend nad ipod touch and he wanted one and how could he eary the money. It all got silly, he wanted a job and we said at his age he was limited. Hubby suggesting he knock on strangers door and offer to do odd jobs. Son refused saying anything could happen to him doing that. Said it was his birthday soon(sept) and he could have it then. he didnt want to wait and whinged that most of his friends parents just bought these things as and when.

To cut long stry short it spiralled out of control(not with me) but hubby lost the plot and was absolutely vile. I couldnt calm him down, he was shouting and shouting at me about all my kids being useless, waste of space( he had had a drink btw - no excuse I know). Kept on about how I wouldnt survive without his money blah blah blah and I would be destitute if he left. So i said well your parents are away for another 2 weeks - if you feel like that just go and stay at their house. He didnt, but just gave me the silent treatment. Has left for work and didnt even know he had gone.

I just dont know how to sort this out. Obviously if I had to choose my son would come first, no question. In fact Im not sure what Im even asking, Im just fed up of excusing his behaviour and want it to stop.

[Smowball]

No he isn't a gemini - he is an aquarius.
He has actually been very quiet since, just going to get this weekend out of the way and then try and deal with it.

[NoMercy]

My step dad was jealous of my relationship with my mother and if i so much as looked at him sideways, the fists would come flying...and that was fine by my mother. She never once tried to intervene. I wont ever forgive her as long as i live.

Tell your son that the world doesnt owe him a favour and tell your husband if his behaviour doesnt change, he can *** off and youll manage without his money.