Help!! Update

[caz21]

Morning everyone!

Thanks for all your replys! after i left work last night i thought for a long while about what i would say, i phoned him up and said we werent right for each other, that i thought he was still in love with his ex and he should run off to a desert island with her, (which he guessed what i'd done) then tried to say i was wrong and had i ever thought maybe he didnt want a commited relationship with me...? er no! so he's dumped!

In response to your questions

i checked because i was suspicious and with good reason it seems! i never normally!

and PinkFizz his password is very secret, i'm just a very good PI!!! ;o)

x

[Reenie29]

I went through more or less the same thing a few months ago - found out my bloke of 4 years had met someone else and was (kind of ) seeing them behind my back.

I ended up txting her - calling her rude names etc. Initially I felt better but then horrible. Also did the revenge thing with my ex - nothing worthy of a custodial sentence and very cathartic at the time but again it didn't help.

What REALLY worked was blubbing over friends and doing all the stuff I'd wanted to do for ages. You're bound to think about him loads - I know I did. You'll think about her too and be angry - it took me months to get over the fact that he'd run off with someone the complete opposite to me (and marrying bizarrely enough after about 5 months of knowing her - I thought I'd be dead upset but I can't even be a***d to think about it)

Anyway a few nasty moments ensured but I ended up meeting another fella - a real sweetie - and I can honestly say I've never been happier. I'm not saying you need to find a bloke, but go out and do stuff and you WILL feel better soon.

In the meantime I'd send him a measured, sensible email asking for the money for your holiday back - its horrible I know but you'll come out of it feeling stronger. Failing that put itching powder in his boxers : )

[caz21]

Yeah your right, it wont do any good! Glad you've found someone sweet! hope i can do the same! someone who feels the same way about me! just a bit scared i have lost my trust in men now!

[Reenie29]

Well I felt like that as well - I'd not been single for yonks and felt like I'd never meet anyone else - looking back I was probably being a bit of a drama queen about the whole thing. Anyway I did - and you will too.

Make sure you do something nice at the weekend - I was dead lucky to have supportive mates who poured red wine down my throat and parents who took me out and about. I also did a LOT of shopping...anything to take your mind off it really. Actually maybe not the red wine thing, but have a nice weekend anyway. xx

PS I also found a website which offered money to people who wanted to write nasty things about their ex and get them published. I was sorely tempted but didn't want to see my mug in Take a Break. If I can find the link I'll post it???

[caz21]

Nah, he'd love that he's so vain it would be a case of all publicity is good publicity!

Wouldnt mind putting a hex on him so he cant get 'it' up next time he's with a girl though!! LOL!!!

Know of any good spells?? ;o)

[Reenie29]

Hee-hee. During one of our many terse conversations I wished my ex a lifetime of 'problems down there', baldness and writers block. Not a spell exactly but it seemed to upset him. I also told everyone he had a very small appendage. Not that I'm recommending that sort of behaviour of course...better to be silent and dignified. Apparantly.