SEX advice!

[Amish_Danish]

Just woundering what age you guys 'lost your cherry'? coz im 18(nearly 19), and i havn't had it yet! i have been offered IT a number of times, but i havnt been brave enough to go through with it. ...

What do i do? Just go and do it, or wait?! HELP ME PLEASE. if you have read this thankyou for your time, and im greatful for any advice. xx

[bruce-lucie]

Hey i lost it when i was 14 but i was in a steady relationship and we were both 100% ready and horny. If your unsure then your probably not ready, but if its only because your worried that your not good enough dont! It all comes naturally, and you will learn tricks in time, thats the only way to get better is practice. Let the person know how your feeling, and be in a relationship! the amount people i know who lost it out of a relationship and regretted it is unbelievable! GOOD LUCK X X X X

[Tinker]

I was 17, but my last boyfriend was 20 and he lost it...........to me! DEFINATELY wait. i waited and im glad i did even though it wasn't that great anyway, but in the future you will be glad you waited. There's plenty more to be getting on with other than actual sex anyway - if you catch my drift ; )

[Clanad]

And I thought you were discussing a misplaced maraschino on a banana split, and I'm thinking "What's the big deal, maybe the ice cream hurts his teeth"... Oh well...

[Morrisonker]

i was 17, my boyfriend was nearly 19 and  it was with each other.

I'd wait, do you really want your first time to be with some random person and then a few months later get involved with someone seriously and realise how much better it'd be with them?  Especially when it's something new and you don't know how you'll react.  It doesn't always work first time...

 

I'm old fashioned when it comes to sex, i think that losing you virginity to someone is something special and I felt like that when my boyfriend said he wanted it to be with me.  You've got plenty of time to have sex, don't rush it.  It's better with someone who you love and who loves you.

[country_boy]

I was 14 and agree with the first answer, first love for both of us!  Your first time is special, make sure it is with someone special to you, makes for good memories!

[TTFresh]

I was 16 and no matter how special we tried to make it, we just felt like wallies.  My bro was 21 - he chose this though afterwards he did wonder why.  he was very open about it and unashamed because there was nothing to be ashamed of.  Look at it this way, it's not the sort of thing that seperates the men from the boys.  All people in the world do it and any fool is capable but far fewer are responsible and secure in it.  Don't sweat it, it's important but not a big deal (if you get what I mean).  At the end of the day we end up with 1 person and as long as you're happy then you couldn't ask for more - If you meet someone, go with your instincts but try not to hurt anyone.

[jills]

I was 16, boyfriend at the time was 18 - first time for btoh of us.  We'd been going otu for 8 or 9 months and ti was kind of the next logical step.  It wasn't great, but it wasn't bad.   I certainly don't regret it (even tho the relationship didn't last) but if either of you are unsure...don't do it.  Better to wait till you're sure you're ready, than regret it afterwards.  and of course, take sensible precautions regarding contraception (sorry, that's the sensible 33 year old coming thru!). 

[El D]

yawn yawn it doesnt matter, and personally I think all that crap about the first time being special is another fallacy perpetrated by the E4 culture - sex is natural, wholesome, and very enjoyable, when it feels right, have it

[Ahmed]

Me and my first love our virginity to eachother at 17. All I can say is don't rush in to it, take your time and make sure it's with someone special.

Remember; practice makes perfect

[Goldensmile]

"If it feels good, do it!"  It would seem that you're not "felling it", so hang fire! 

My husband tells me he didn't lose his virginity until he was 18/19 - so what's the big deal? 

I lost my virginity when I was 18 because I felt pressurised - everyone else was doing it.  What a stupid reason for doing something that you will only do once!  People may say it's not precious but I disagree.  Although my boyfriend at the time was a lovely bloke and the relationship lasted almost two years, I wish I'd chosen to lose my virginity for the right reasons.

Just take your time - there's no rush and that is something some men need to remember further down the line when having sex on a regular basis.  Quality is far better than quantity.  So please just relax and don't worry.  You'll know when the time is right and you wont even think about it!

Get on and enjoy all the other things life has to offer you - sex is going to be there, believe me, whenever you're ready, it's not going away!

 

[natalie_1982]

I was 14, I wasn't in love with the lad (he was 17 and it was his first time btw), but I was in a steady relationship with him, although sometimes I think if we hadn't gone as far as we did together then we wouldn't have stayed togetherfor as long as we did. 

 

If it's important to you then make sure you are ready it doesn't matter what others think.

 

In a fairy story, I'd like to have waited until I met my prince but life isn't a fairy story and I don't regret doing it when I did.  If you want to wait until your wedding night, or you want to give it to anyone who's obliging then that's your chance.  But be ready to take the consequences whichever you choose.

[londondave]

Mine was on my 17th birthday, but like you I was offered a few times before also, but bottled it.

[bernardo]

I don't like cherries.

[Romeo]

I lost my cherries a long time ago, but this isn't about me, it's about you.  Now then.  You say you've been offered sex, yet you've declined.  Why is that?  Is it because you were unsure whether she really was offering it?  Were you worried that you might have misunderstood and didn't want to embarrass yourself?  If she really means it, then you must go for it!  Don't wait.  What are you waiting for anyway?  Get out there, Amish and good luck.

[xxlizziexx]

im not a guy no but i just wanted to say that dont just have sex for the sake of it. its your first time and ive always bee told that its ever so special and that you should want it special, its something that you will rember for the rest of your life and so you cant just though it away. a few of my friends ( that are older than me ) say that they regret losing there "cherry" beacuse they just lost it, they didnt rly care, so just take time and think about it and dont have sex till your 110% ready other wise you wont enjoy it hope this helps xx

[Kirsten1982]

I was 14, he was 16. We were both virgins and ready to try it. I don't have any regrets we were together for over 4 years and are still friends which is nice.

[RebeccaSJ]

It w5th birthday. He seduced me. A very special birthday present!

[Rebecca_SJ]

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