Hi I am sorry to hear about your problems but can see yours partners view also. Having parents that split up must be terrible. It is not the same thing but our daughter has a little girl,nearly nine now, and her poor little mind is in turmoil. My daughter is now married and has two more little girls and a baby boy. Her sisters and brother. but also two dads.My granddaughters real father sees her twice a week. We have behaveour problems with her and I am sure it is because of this. What will she think when she grows up.? My other daughter was with her partner for 6years, so happy they where liked joined at the hip.Got married and he walked out just after their first anniversary. So really and trully if you love each other why rock the boat what is a piece of paper? your love and commitment to each other should be enough. My husband and I have been married for 35 years next month,and are still happy but living together seems a lot better idea these days than getting married.I hope you dont think I have gone on but I just wanted you to see two sides of it. If there is a problem with your relationship other than this, than think hard about your futher together ,if not and you are really in love than just go with the flow, so to speak. my thoughts are with you all in this. Brenda xx