We've more or less made all the big decisions now. However we have both been married before and most of our guests will have attended at least one of our weddings. Consequently we do not expect people to buy gifts. Is there a tactful way we can say this or let people know without sounding ungrateful?
Secondly, Mr bm lost his dad this year. How can I make him feel his dad is part of this? I know i could do an absent friends toast but i was trying to think of something else.