Is he making moves?

[Roughquest]

I think my bos and I get on quite well, but lately when we have been working together (he sat beside me) he placed his hand on my hand, then he drove me up to the town to put the banking in and whilst in the car he squeezed my knee....I didnt like to say anything, I am not sure if its flattering or if I should be worried, I am 38 and he is 51.....he is married by the way...he seems pretty harmless - but I am not quite sure how to deal with this...
Confused...

[Cobra.]

He wants you.

[Cobra.]

haaaaaaaaaaaaaa

[littleoldme]

It certainly sounds like he's testing the water, so to speak. Squeezing your knee, especially while you're in the car and can't escape, seems rather more than just meaningless flirting to me. If he does it again, make sure he realises you don't approve (I'm assuming you don't approve - he is married, remember). Better still, don't get a lift from him.

Sounds like he's got mid-life crisis written all over him.

[Nemesis9]

Lead him on, then take him to the cleaners for sexual harassment!
It's all the rage these days, and judging by some of the payouts, very lucrative too.
If your conscience is troubling you, I would suggest letting him 'have a little' first, then you can consider it remuneration in kind. ; )

[laurence2]

If you want a ''BIG PAYRISE'' i would use the sexual harrassment against him, or tell him you are going to mention this to his wife, he sounds like a complete to$$er, who is trying to use his power to get what he wants, stand up to him, don't take this the wrong way Roughquest, but saying your not sure how to deal with it is not exceptable at 38 years of age, an 18 year old maybe?

You know in your heart of hearts this pr1ck was trying it on, and if its not you then it might well be the 18 year old next.

[jno]

touching hands can be harmless, putting hands on knees seldom is. You can try avoiding him, but if that seems too much work (and why should you have to?), then the next time his hand goes somewhere it shouldn't, firmly pick it up and return it to him. I doubt you'll need to say anything, the action will say it all.

If he tries it again after that, then he is not harmless at all.

[atolhurst]

Hmm...I'm assuming here you're not interested in him?

If not, if he does it again, perhaps just mention that you don't think that's appropriate work place behaviour. of course, after that if he suggests something about out of work place behaviour, you know he's definately interested in you so you have to nip it in the bud by telling him you're not interested.

He is your boss of course and one wold hope he's not trying to abuse his position of power - just that he's a chap who is interested in you (he's only human after all!!!). Of course, if he does try and use his authority to continue this behaviour, you might need to make a stand.

If you have an HR or a director above your boss's ranking, definately mention it to them at this point.

But I would try, in the first instance, to deal with it as discreetly as possible.

[Spinchimp.]

is his name ray?