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He will not discuss it, he got very defensive when I asked him what he was asking mum about. He went to the nursing home and told her he was putting up a fence for his privacy now she has gone. It seemed to be fait accompli, not asking if he could use the same fence posts just doing it . He said she was going to pay for it - she says she said no such thing - she maybe 95 but she's not daft she has all her marbles.Mum has left everything upto me and my husband but I always discuss things with her. Her hung up on me I was not rude, and he got quite personal.