What Is It?

[Metsuha97]

Okay if you saw my past questions you certainly think "oh god not again". I feel like a teenager again but it's because I feel things I've never felt before so I keep asking myself questions and I like reading/hearing others opinion. I can't get that guy out of my head. I haven't met him yet and I don't know if I'll ever meet him because it's complicated and I know I have to meet him to learn more about my feelings. But the problem here is that it isn't possible to meet him right now. He's busy and lives far away from me. Like I said before he's the male version of myself I'm sure of it. I've never seen anyone else who thinks and does things the way I do it. We're practically the same. My siblings even say we look alike and that he reminds them of me. Also we have a lot of similarities about our past, a lot of parallels. I also feel that we have a connection. I don't know what to do. I'm helpless please someone help me. It's so confusing and scary sometimes. My mind is a mess.

[spathiphyllum]

You know how opposites attract?

[spathiphyllum]

they say

[spathiphyllum]

I would slide into his DM's and explain how you're open to him. He may love it. He may not. You'll then know if this connection is real or if it's just you.

[Metsuha97]

What do you mean?

[Metsuha97]

yeah you're right thanks I'm gonna try that.

[spathiphyllum]

I mean.. a lot of people assume they want to find someone like themselves, but often people who are similar can clash. they say opposites attracts, like magnets.. This of course isn't true, unless you're talking about magnets, but the saying does hold some form of weight. I would hate to be with someone who was exactly like me. You both want to bring qualities to each other, if you have nothing to bring then what's the point?

I think it would be good to talk to him, just to see where his head is at. I mean, we can only guess the situation from the information you've provided but i would be too honest about how you think about him. Keep some cards to your chest.

[spathiphyllum]

i wouldn't be ** i wouldn't be too honest *

If you go to him and say "you're my twin flame" he may be a bit taken aback and put off. I don't know though.. i guess you do you, then you'll find someone who likes you for you.

[Metsuha97]

Yeah you're right. But you know before seeing him for the first time and before I got to know things about him i was struggling with being myself. I didn't have any confidence and sometimes I didn't like what I saw in the mirror and all those issues. And I was trying to find myself but it didn't work. And this might sound cheesy but when I found him I found myself. Because of him I'm myself and I love who I am.

[spathiphyllum]

I feel you're basing your life from an expectation of how things should go and when.

There is no blue print to life. Not many people find themselves until they're early 30's

You may be surprised to know that life holds so much possibility and a guy isn't the be all or end all of that. It's goo that maybe you see yourself in him, which helps you understand yourself, but it's important to remember that you need to be you, and that you don't know this guy at all. You've admitted you've not even held a conversation.

Social media can set false expectations.

[Zacs-Master]

Are we talking about our Lord Jesus, here?

[bodeker]

Reality never lives up to the fantasy.