90 Yr Old Mum

[hannah40]

Before this virus became bad I had suggested to my 90 yr old mum she came and lived with me and stayed in the annex own room and bathroom and I took her meals to her .
She said no I want to stay in my own flat. I explained we couldn’t visit her but I could drop stuff off outside her door.
She is on her own as she wished for but she is going shopping everyday to the local stores
Not just one store but the bakers butchers fruit shop for her daily shopping i
Have tried to explain to her numerous times to stay in her flat and I will drop stuff off but she said no I want to shop it’s me getting out and I need food.
It’s the only contact I have now a days.
I really don’t know what to do.
Should I just leave her to it and hope she doesn’t catch virus.
I can’t really force her to stay put.
It’s stressing me out.
She has no under lying health issues it’s just her age concerns me.
Thanks

[chrissa1]

It’s people like her that will keep this nightmare going. Grrrrr.

[hannah40]

Sounds like my mum it’s her local radio station hope she heard it.

[chrissa1]

:0 :0

[calmck]

Your mum is 90 and is possibly regretting her decision not to be with you. She might be going out because she does not like being alone. Is she in a town or village? Is there a clergyman who could talk with her and give advice? Any friends close by? Is there a community officer who could talk to her. You can do no more than what you have done. Hopefully she will realise that she must stay in more

[albaqwerty]

oh brother, Hannah, you've got your hands full if it is.
Don't envy you x

[bednobs]

"It's called independence and the older generation still treasure it if they are lucky."
Not just the older generation. Last week 65 million people had their independence curtailed and the vast majority didnt decide to "treasure" it, they decided to do the right thing

[rowanwitch]

Mine just doesn't have the ability to accept anything that doesn't fit with her view of how the world is. We have tried reinforcing ing the message but she denies seeing any of it on tv... no short term memory.

[chrissa1]

That’s so sad, rowanwitch. :(

[hiflier]

It seems a bit inconsiderate of answerbank to insert advertisements for funeral directors and the like in this thread!

[Tilly2]

Yes, FF, you're right. Now that I have thought about it more carefully, feisty was the wrong word to use. I didn't really consider the ramifications of her behaviour and actions.
Thanks for making me think about it.