Fantasies

[steve208]

Why is it that when i dream up a sexual fantasie it seems great, then...

i either dont have the guts to enact it or if i do then it is not as good as in my visions.

Also on a lighter note why is it when i percieve something bad will happen i imagine all the consquences and usually it is not that bad and i breath a sigh of relief. Why does the human mind have such a capacity for thinking the absolute worst or is it just me?

[Neenee]

oh steve, which fantasies have you done which didnt live upto your expetations.... :-)

[missjef]

i always usually think of the worst, probably why i hate flying because i always think the planes gonna crash! think its partly human nature to think of bad things?

[Neenee]

oh misjef...im like that too. absolutely hate flying

[Pippa68]

Fantasies are fantasies for a reason...;o)

Not sure about the last question just yet ~ I am only on my second cup of tea & I need at least 4 before I can think as deeply as that!

[Catso]

Fantasies are usually best left as fantasies. Much more enjoyable.

That's just a character trait; some people are like that, others, like my wife, just don't bother worrying and never think about consequences. She says "if it's going to happen, it's going to happen - I can't stop it or alter it, so its not worth worrying about it".

Though having said that, I read somewhere only a few weeks ago that what you describe is a very common human (and perhaps primate) trait. Apparently it is beneficial in that you are rehearsing all the 'game plays' in your mind, so when it actually happens, you just repeat the appropriate actions. Having pondered and mentally rehearsed it, actually doing it becomes straight-forward.

[Catso]

PS I think the article was on the BBC news site - I'll try and find it (although BBC indexing is v poor!).

[steve208]

Thanks for your answers.

Hum yes castro it would seem to be the case that if i think lots about something aka worry then when it comes to doing it the task is not so hard.