Hey ! What Do U think of me?

[OgeDDD]

I am 30 and still a virgin? the wonderful thing about it, is that I feel normal and have numerous friends. What advice do U have for others out there, who may think it is not possible to be a virgin at EVEN 30!

[nat_84]

i think its possible and think its great.... although if only u knew what u were missing out on u might regret the years you've lost ;o)

[andy-hughes]

If anyone is defining you by your approach to sexual experiendce, then they are too shallow to consider important enough to be heard.

Why should you not feel 'normal'? The constant cultural prressure on everyone to have sex is something which independently minded individuals resist. Loss of virginity is not a race, or a competition, it happens when the individual feels the time is right - for some that is later than others.

If anyone tells you it is 'not possible' why not advise them that it is 'not possible' to hold shallow ill-thought offesnive opinions, and voice them to people , but that happens as well.

[crete]

being a virgin at 30 may be quite normal for some people i just wonder why you feel the eed to share the information with people

[Octavius]

I am amazed that you infer from your question that you are a virgin and still have friends. Can that really be right?

[~owzat~]

Look at it this way,

There's a lot of people out there who don't feel normal and have numerous friends...

Feeling normal has no bearing on your virginity...

Being a virgin or not a virgin, has no bearing to whether you are normal or feel normal, or even if you are or feel abnormal!!

Anyhow, you are (supposedly) in good company as Mary was a virgin...

[whiffey]

That's commendable.

I think sex is the closest bonding statement two people can make to each other. If you sleep with people lightly, what is there left to give when someone special comes along ?

You still hold that gift.

[Octavius]

That depends whiffey, on whether it is abstaining by choice or just not getting lucky.

[~owzat~]

Are we to assume by that statement whiffey, that you assume only OgeDDD is to be commended?

How do you know anything about the other posters on this thread, that they have not entered into their relationships, with deep commitment. The fact that Oge has reached 30 before (if ever) they loose their virginity, doesn't mean that anyone else who has "lost" it at an earlier age, has done so lightly?

[crete]

OgeDDD, id be interested to know if you are in a relationship at the moment and has remaining a virgin seen a conscious decision or have you not met Mr Mrs right ?

[whiffey]

owzat, nothing can be assumed from what I put, except to read it at face value.

Replace 'you' with 'one' and it is clearer.

[cascarelli]

What or who are you saving yourself for? Would you expect your eventual partner also to be a virgin? As nat said, you only think its only wonderful because you dont know what your missing!!

[~owzat~]

Well whiffey, the fact that many held that gift for less time than OgeDDD (again - if ever), does not make it any more commendable, whether they were 18/20/25 yrs of age when they found that deep meaning commitment that bonded them together...

Funny how you got three stars, from a new poster??

[whiffey]

owzat, my reply had nothing to do with OgeDDD being 30, it was only my personal view about the value of sex.

I made a completely non-flippant statement (maybe unusual for me) and got 3-stars from a new user - why is that funny ?

[steviep165]

i think you should get laid Oge, you'l be hooked after that.

[fee-is-me]

I think some people take sex far too seriously and have too much of a hang-up about it.

I'm not suggesting we should all be out there doing this, that and the other in a random fashion, but sex is far *more* than 'the closest bonding statement two people can make...' (in my opinion) as it CAN also be enjoyed between 'less bonded' partners... making it separate from 'love' and therefore more of an activity-to-be-enjoyed than the be-all-and-end-all-must-wait-until-i-find-the-right-person thingy.

[Champagne]

I don't think anything of you. I don't know you.

[The Sherman]

sex is ace, i like doing ace stuff therefore.....

i dont see how waiting any longer or less time could make it more enjoyable. its a pleasurable experience pretty much all the time. Save yourself if you want but ask yourself what are you saving it for?????

[spurslady]

Why do you feel the need to justify yourself with us that you are 30 and still a virgin? maybe deep down somewhere in your subconsciousness you feel that it's wrong to still be this way and want our approval that you still are.

The longer you leave it the harder it may be for you to take that final step, plus you didnt say if you were male or female?

I know someone who is 27 and still one "their" biggest fear is two overprotective older brothers who threaten to smash the face in of any person that dares look at "them". "They" desperatly want to lose theirs and dont really care who with.

At the end of the day it's your choice but if you did want to have children in the future you are leaving it a bit late, unless you are a bloke and can keep knocking them out until you pop your clogs!

[joko]

i agree with fee-is-me.

people put far too much emphasis on 'waiting' and 'sharing a gift# and 'to be treasured' etc

sex is sex, see it for what it is.

its not some bit mystical, spiritual thing that needs to be almost enshrined.

it can be mystical and spriritual if course - but that is more to do with the person you are with and perhaps circumstances - not to do with how long you abstained.

far more special than waiting - and actually feeling some sort of pride in that - is choosing partners wisely - no need to be over picky, but if it feels right at the time - wheres the harm?
doing something for the first time can be special but perhaps thats just novelty value - doing something lots and then finding someone that is the absolute best - is much better and longer lasting

you and me baby aint nothing but mammals, do it like they do it on the discovery channel...

[OgeDDD]

Spurlady, I read ur comment and I have my life to live, the good thing about this is just that depending on the way U were brought up, and what U believe in.

It may not really be wise for me to say that I am waithing for Miss/Mr right who MUST be a VIRGIN!

Is just a matter of Choice. Every Human have the ability to make CHOICE.

Remember that we are tempted everyday. But GOD helps us to stay Chaste.

It is not as easy as A.B.C.

Any way, thank U all for your comments, views and response, I LOVE U ALL!