Is it cheating?

[think_sweet]

Hey all...going through a bit of a rough time at the mo' so please go easy on me. Just yesterday discovered that my (ex)boyfriend has been chatting to girls over the internet, very local girls aswell! He claims it was a bit of fun and would have NEVER gone any further! After he left I managed to log onto the site after guessing his password just to discover he had about six different girls lined up and was sending dirty messages to them! I immediately ended things and told him how disgusted I was, what upset me the most is that he marked 'single' as his relationship status! He has apologised to me several times and said he is very ashamed of himself, but I cant seem to get it out my head! We are both only 22, there has been no warning signs and have been in a happy relationship for 2 and a half years! Would anyone else class this as cheating or being unfaithful! Any opinions will do, plus has anyone gone though the same? Thanks Think_Sweet xx

[mrknowall]

Im getting ear ache hear her in doors says im chatting to women im not am i lol

[jedimistress]

Get rid of him. He is only ashamed because he got caught. I think 99% of men on the internet say they are single....I think if he does this, then he will go further eventually. It will only get worse imho. Begin with number swaps, kinky texts onto photos too. Look after yourself.xxxx Hugs. xxxxx

I had it done to me, I dumped him, but not after that first time, but after repeated times I caught him and yes it really hurt when he described himself as single! He now does it behind his new girlfriend's back, I know cuz I still check his emails from time to time. Also, my sister sends private kinky texts and photos to some married man up north. Feel sorry for his wife too, having someone else see photos of his wotsit and arranging to meet for sex.

[wiggal]

I will put my hands up and admit to being a person who has done this.
The problem with our relationship was my bf and i got to a point where we were in such a routine, he spent his evenings playing xbox games against his best mates and i sat on the laptop, i am only 20 myself, he is 25. When he was playing his games, i felt i couldnt talk to him or anything as he didnt like being interupted, so i went elsewhere to get attention, which i know was completely the wrong way to go about it! In the end i admitted it to him and he was very hurt and i will never forgive myself for making him feel that way. We spent a long time talking about us & things, and after that evening, he never played online xbox games again, as he felt he was to blame. We made a huge effort to sort things out, and things are absolutely fine between us now.

[ummmm]

That's the thing....people are too quick to judge.

think_sweet....people have different idea's about what is acceptable and what is not. Some people don't realise what they're doing to someone until it's pointed out and made crystal clear......

[wiggal]

I agree ummmm, and not just because of what i said above.
I felt left out, i felt i couldnt compete with his xbox game or his best mate, and i know that is never an excuse.
I do know that he loved me very very much.
He didnt realise at all how i felt and just thought i was happy chatting to mates on the laptop. It was only after a while i realised how it would hurt him, so i came clean.

[think_sweet]

Well, just had a chat with him and i asked him straight out why and he said he liked the attention he was getting! Im still gonna have to have a good think about things but at least were getting somewhere hehe! Bloody my space eh...bad news!