Its Weird

[nailit]

Mum died over a month ago.
Funeral was last week.
And yet I still find myself wanting to pick up the phone to impart a snippet of gossip/news or whatever to her!
Does my head in at times!!

Nearly cycled down to her bungalow last weekend before realising that she wouldnt be there.

Got be honest....my heads all over the shop!!

[Old_Geezer]

Not unusual. Takes a while to adapt to such a change.

[Mamyalynne]

It will be quite a while before those feelings subside and one or two of them still spring up years later, it's natural Nailit.

[elliemay1]

It's very natural nailit. It happened to me for years after my Mum died. You'll probably also find yourself using expressions that your Mum used without intending to!

[maggiebee]

Yes, it does take time to adjust. I found myself buying ready meals for my dad before remembering he was no longer around. Be kind to yourself nailit.

[pastafreak]

A month isn't a long time at all. A person who has been a part of your life for 50+ years is gone...physically. But you will continue to feel and remember her presence.
Things will return to normal...in their own time.

[nailit]

Thanks all.

[carolegif]

When my parents died (within 4 months of each other), I had this feeling for a long time. Even now, years later, i hear something on the news and I think Mum/Dad would be interested in that, but then I realize.
After Mum died, Dad went to see her in the home twice. He was so used to going. The caters in the home were lovely and made him stay for a cup of tea.
Your feelings are quite normal and shows what a loving family you had.

[MallyJ]

takes ages for old habits to stop...I reckoned 2 years after my mum died I started to feel myself again. Look after yourself and let others help. This bad time will pass...I found that I was left with some lovely memories that have helped for the time since.

[emmie]

i still get that 4 years on, wondering where she is, then remembering that she died. Take your time, its only been a month, the pain will ease, you will remember then that she's not around anymore - sad as that is.

[barry1010]

I'm still have those moments after 30 years.

[Purist]

still new for me, it will be two years in August since my dad died and even now sometimes I am suddenly gripped with shock that he is no longer around.

[Canary42]

My Mum died in 2013, but those flashes still occur from time to time.