thanks for the answers - I was only referring to this friend that died last year was the only friend I have at the moment to have known my mother (hope that ok)
I dont see that gem, ruby, diamond geezer is better.
I think it is impt you remember and honour them - a lot of the readers (of the obit) like the usual suspects on AB will shrug their much-shrugged shoulders and wonder - - so what?
I was excluded from an RAF pilots funeral because the rels didnt really get it that he was a pilot.....I still honoured his memory - see final scene of Woodlanders