Family Problems Vent

[mimi999999999]

My school day is from 7:20 AM - 3:45 PM every day. Normally, anyone would be glad to go back home and just relax, right? Wrong. Every time I come home, my mom always has something to complain to me about. She always makes a problem out of literally nothing and then blames it on me.

I hate how she always forces me to set the table for my dad and wash the dishes, but doesn’t give two *** whether or not my brothers room is clean. God forbid my room is a mess, because she won’t get off my ass about that either.

In school, I have straight A’s and a 4.00 GPA. My parents say that’s not enough. My celebration was today at school to celebrate me and all the other students. No one in my family came for me. It was so humiliating to see all the parents show up for their kids and take pictures with them, when all I could do was take my award and leave.

After I came back home, my mom was annoyed with ME. She said that it was my fault as to why she didn’t show up to my celebration.

I don’t even think I’m getting anything for christmas. I only asked them for one thing, a less than $80 camera so I could start recording videos, since it’s been a dream of mine ever since I was little to be a youtuber. They both said that it was stupid. But they got the iPhone for my mom, of course.

It’s just like no matter what I do, my parents always find a way to make me feel like ***. I try locking myself away in my room to just listen to music, but my mom just takes the key and barges open without even knocking. That last sentence basically sums up my entire relationship with her for the last 16 years.

I honestly can’t wait until I move out for college, because I won’t ever have to deal with them again, I won’t even bother visiting them for the holidays. But for now, I just have to suck it up.

[Canary42]

Hi mimi. This is a UK site so you are unlikely to get too many responses since most of us are not familiar with the US family culture or education system.

You sound very much like a typical teenager, adolescence can be a very difficult time to get through.

My perception on American families with a boy and a girl child is that the parents tend to favour the boy (a classic case being Richard and Karen Carpenter) over the girl. I may be completely wrong with this analysis so don't read too much into it.

You appear resigned to "suck it up", and while rather negative, I hope you do try to "grin and bear it". And don't get vengeful when you go to college by ostracising your folks, that won't do any good at all.

Try to recognise that your parents want the best for you, and are trying their best (but making mistakes, but we all do that).

Your academic results seem excellent, so there is no reason for you to feel like ***. And I hope the rant on here has dispelled some of your frustration.

Finally, good luck with your future (I think you could aspire to being a little more than just a YouTuber, but being an 80-year-old perhaps that's a little unfair of me - sorry if that's the case)

[Old_Geezer]

Sounds a very good appraisal by Canary.

Try not to burn bridges in life, it's rarely necessary and can end up being something one regrets.